Let me start off by saying that we went through a custody case for my stepdaughter that cost close to $90,000 dollars after all was said and done. We started custody proceedings when in 1992 and was awarded custody in 1993. My mother-in-law has always treated this grandchild different from the other grandchildren. It is very obvious to everyone. My husband just sat back and watched all these years and does not say a word. My stepdaughter at (16 years old was so out of control that no one could control her). So my mother-in-law steps in…….and says she will take her in……Well needless to say my stepdaughter ran up the $2,000 cell phone bill (for one month), she stole hundreds of dollars from my in-laws drawers and she eventually ran away. My mother in-law- was in such denial that when it happened to her she was devastated. I thought I told you so (now you can see what we were going through. Through our attorney we gave up custody of the child…..We could not longer handle her and felt that it was not fair to our other children. We all decided that until she changed and had the ability to grow up, tell the truth and stop stealing, doing drugs and having sex with (just about anyone) that we would not see her. Low and behold my mother-in-law calls her up and of course my stepdaughter (wants money and things)…..so hear we are back in the same situation. My mother-in-law tells my husband that she has changed and that she is not doing drugs (and that she really wants to see him). As her stepmother I am the cause of all her problems. She told my mother-in-law that she wants nothing to do with me. So my husband and I see pictures of her smoking crack on her MYSPACE page and the fact that she failed to tell my mother-in-law that she is on PROBATION for driving 120 in a 60 mph zone……So I sent the pictures through the mail to my mother-in-law……low and behold once again my husband is upset at me because I hurt his mother. Stepdaughter tells mother-in-law that the pictures were old but on the photo is says 09-25-2008. Mother-in-law thinks I am picking on her and tell husband to tell me that this is none of my business. My mother-in-law thinks my husband does not see his daughter because of me and since my husband won’t set the record straight (it also appears that way). I have a son 14 (our son together and personally I don’t want him around his daughter or his parents. My mother-in-law called me one day about two months ago and she said did you know (my son) encouraged me to have a relationship with his daughter…..Honestly I should have left her (stepdaughter) with her mother years ago (as the saying goes the apple does not fall far from the tree. How do I handle my mother-in-law and husband who is playing both sides of the fence behind my back?
He too kisses his mother on the lips and tells her he loves her. I can count on two hands the times that he has told me he loved me. Everytime I see this I am so hurt but he sees nothing.
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