Mother-in-law Hell

Well 3 years ago I met the man of my dreams. Lil did I know I would have a mother-in-law that would try to take all my dreams away. It all started when I moved to Alabama to be with him an start a life. I had been there about 4 months before I realized that he had never really invited me to meet his parents. I asked him about this an he simple put it ….My family are firm believers that marriage before the whole living with each other an stuff. So I tried to deal with that but, after a Lil bit I couldn’t deal with knowing I am my daughter from a previous relationship were a secret. So I push it a Lil more an then I got to meet them.

Well let me say the first visit was not the best an I wondered if this was the start of a long road with them most of all the mother. After about a year we became pregnant an I moved back to Fla after we got into a Lil fight about his mom. So now 6 months into the pregnancy he was on his way to see me an go for a doctor apt with me to see what we were having. I was excited an thought his family would be too. After we found out we were having a girl I asked him if he wanted to call anyone to share our news? He said No he was going to tell them in person an show them the pictures. So I let it be.

Then I start to wonder how everyone feels about our Lil girl that’s on her way an so I ask him. Well he said everyone was happy. Well to make it shorter….NO ONE KNEW I WAS EVEN PREGNANT. He had never told anyone at all!!! I found out by just calling his mom an asking way she nor anyone else had called to say congrats or how is it going or anything. To find out that no one knew killed me to say the least. I had a long long talk with him about why he didn’t tell anyone. Well out of fear of what his parents an family would think an say he just didn’t say anything . Not knowing the pain it would cause everyone an things have been so down hill since.

Our Lil one was born in Oct an none of his family came to see her , I was hurt an thought in time tings would change .So then we had decided to marry that May after she was born . We had planed a small Lil wedding in our home. I sent out invites an no one showed up or even called to say no thanks. So there we are on the day that’s supposed to be the best day for us an he is left with no one from his family there. Hurt was not the word for how we felt about it.

So much has happen an so many fights. I feel I have tried so much an she just keeps it all going. She is still on his bank account from when he opened it when he was a kid an she refuses to get off it an has told my husband if you take me off there will be problems in so many words . So now to not fight with his mom she is still on there. She thinks I’m with him for his money an looks at the bank statement an all.

He works out of town an comes home every weekend. He still stays at his parents house due to not having the money to pay for 2 homes . So there for I feel like I share him with his mom an that his mom wins . Its like what she says goes!! She says I’m an unfit mother, I’m after his money, I’m just no good .

Well about 8 months ago she convinced him that he needed time away from me to think on his own an I feel it was her way of trying to get him to leave me..Well what she did was want more time to talk to him an brain wash him. Well it worked. When I found out what his mom was doing I got upset an called her to find out what I had done so wrong to deserve what she was doing. Well lots of words were said an by the end I lost it an she got just what she wanted an he heard it all from her about the phone call an didn’t really believe what I had to say. Well due to his mom an him thinking I disrespect her I got divorce papers a week or so later.

Now I have been fighting for my marriage an since got him back to seeing why he loves me an that this family needs to be whole an work this out. Only after lots of time apart an him going to talk with someone about his marriage did he find out that what his mom has done is so wrong on so many levels. Now we work very hard at this working an I still have to deal with the MIL from Hell

She just wont stop an I am so tired of wondering if fighting for this family is worth it. But for my girls I feel that I have to keep fighting for this family…

Sorry so long but been waiting for along time to get this all out . Any ideas let me know thanks so much ..Will write more about the things still going on soon.