Well over the last few months he has stopped the divorce an we have been working on things alot. I have been doing so much talking in the last few months. I have been asking him many of questions an trying to find a way to get through all of this with the MIL. I think I have tried hard to get along with her.
I wrote a letter to the in-laws to say I’m sorry for my part in the fighting an the mess. I have been waiting but no response as of yet an its been about 5 months. I don’t think I should hold my breath for anything back. I really wish things were different due to the fact I have there first an only grandchild an she needs to know that side of her family. An as long as this all keeps going on I don’t feel that can happen.
They want to see my Lil one but want me to stay home. Well, I live in Fla an they are in Alabama an its about an 8 hour drive. She is only 2 an I don’t feel that she should be in the truck that long an be without me to go. I feel that they need to put things aside to see her. Why should I always bend for them. Why cant they come here to see her at all. They have never been to a Birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas anything.Yet I’m wrong cause I “keep” her from them. No I think I have tried my best an gotten nothing in return.
My mom keeps telling me not to give up an be the bigger person but, at what cost to myself do I keep trying. I print out pictures every few weeks an send they with my husband for them and they don’t even seems to be thankful. I send his other family members pictures over the Internet every month an nothing. I am so tired of trying over an over an getting more from the wall in my home ….
Well I guess things are going to be harder now cause right around the corner is Thanksgiving an then X-mas. An I wonder if I again should travel there so our daughter can see them an get to know them too. I could go an stay in a Motel I guess..Grrr I’m doing it again letting them more her drive me crazy… LOL well gotta go for now Lil one is up from nap… Have a great Halloween an weekend. Hubby due home tonight so gotta send as much time with him as I can hope to get to know some of you an I will be back Monday.
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5 Responses to “3 years of stress part “2″”
Your little one doesn’t know these people. If they can’t be bothered to drive down and see a small one, then they can wait till your child is old enough to handle being in a strange enviroment (like 18). They are the ones “keeping” apart from their grandchild. Keep sending the pictures and don’t sweat the other crap.
Why are you bending over backward for these people if they are not making any effort? Your husband should be able to see that they are being nasty to you and you don’t deserve that. Also, they don’t deserve to see your little one and be nasty to you. If they can’t see her with you then too bad. You are the mama, and you should be there to shield this child from these crazy people. Quit trying. Let your husband deal with them. If he can’t stick up for you against his crazy family, then why would you want to stay married?
NO NO NO NO NO ABSOLUTLEY DO NOT LET YOUR CHILD GO WITHOUT YOU. PLEASE BELIEVE ME. You are the mother, you are the descision maker. Bottom line. That is rediculous and stupid that they want you to do that anyway. Which makes me think, what are they gonna do with your kid that you can’t be around to see? That is way too far away to go without you. Absolutley not. Put your foot down now, so you can move on with your life. Bottom line is, if they want to see their grandchild, it doesn’t matter where it is. This is about CONTROL. Think about it…….
I agree, don’t go. DO NOT send your child. If they want to be part of your child’s life, then they will have to be part of yours. You should never reward bad behavior, and yes that goes for full blown adults too, which many of us may forget. Stop sending tons of baby pictures to them, if they don’t care, then stop. If they take you for granted, stop being used by them. Stop caring what they think. Your family is first and foremost you, your husband and your children. If your marriage won’t hold up under the stress from them in-laws then why keep trying to glue it back together. This has to be a two-way street. If they make an effort then reciprocate, if not, the ball is still in their court. Plan to have yourself a nice Thanksgiving and Xmas at your own home with your own friends and your own family.
Ok, if your GUT is telling you not to let your child go wiht out you…DUH! ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR GUT FEELING!