Seriously, I have the WORST mother in law on Earth!!!!!
by Amalia on 03/01 @ 3:41pmOk, thank God for this website!! Where has it been the past 7 years!!!
My MIL is CRAZY!! She really is medically crazy, at least according to her. She has been diagnosed with a handful of different psychological disorders (according to her), but she has also been “diagnosed” with countless other diseases, disorders, problems, cancers, etc. that have never amounted to anything so no one REALLY knows what actually is going on with her, what’s true or false, or what she has just flat out made up! One day she will have lupus and they next day she will have severed her thumb, then suddenly she will have been hit by a truck…all of which have been flat out lies.
One of my first experiences with her involved her beating herself up, throwing herself out of a moving vehicle, taking off in a strange city and having us track her down for hours. Then she laughed about it and thought it was awesome that she was able to bruise herself so badly. She will go through stages where she hates me, thinks I am Satan and will flat out stalk me. When my husband and I first started dating she completely lost it! She started calling my cell phone so many times a day over and over again that I had to get my number changed. Then she got my parents’ home phone number and did the same thing to them. She would make up so many lies about me to my husband trying to get him to break up with me. She even told him that she thought I was going to have him murdered and he had better start sending her money home for his funeral. She also said that I would track down people’s cats and dogs and run them over on purpose!!! I don’t know where she gets this crap!!! It was SO hurtful at the time b/c I was only 19 and didn’t know why she was treating me so horribly! I had never dealt with anyone like her in my life. THANK GOD that we lived 5,000 miles away from her at the time!!!! I am being honest when I say that I did ABSOLUTELY nothing for her to treat me like crap! She flat out told me that she was jealous of me and my family and that my husband was spending time with another family. She was a single mother raising him, and she never let him spend any time with her family at all. She was used to having him all to herself and she did not want anyone taking his attention away from her.
Anyway…the first couple of years with him were very hard b/c of her constant stalkings and lies and just pure hatred. She finally got over it and was nice to me for several years. She would lash out at him if he didn’t give her enough attention or call her enough, but she generally left me alone. Fast forward a few years…my husband and I had our first child together. Since then my MIL has gone back to her complete INSANENESS! My mother got to meet our daughter first b/c his mother lived too far away and couldn’t make the trip. I got loads of horrible hate mail from her over that. Her outlashes are always caused by jealousy. She was jealous that my mom was around her granddaughter and she couldn’t be. She also did the same thing when her brother got to meet our daughter before her too. She emailed me telling me that my 2 month old daughter was a whore, among other things. I usually always ignore her hate mail and let my husband deal with her when she gets this way, but I could not sit there and let her call my baby a whore! I emailed her back (just what she wanted) letting her know that she would not be in our lives any longer. Well then all hell broke loose. She started COMPLETELY “e-stalking” me! She found OLD OLD OLD photobucket accounts from years ago. One had a picture of me holding a beer that was over 5 years old. She emailed me that and said I was an un-fit mother. She found pretty much every account I had online and emailed me letting me know that she was stalking me. She called me every name in the book. She eventually apologized, and I just don’t have a relationship with her. I don’t see how I can. Randomly she gets mad at something and feels the need to send me more hate mail. I got one today out of the blue for no reason at all. It was calling me a manipulative bitch b/c I don’t ever call her or email her. She told me that my daughter will grow up to hate me and that her son doesn’t really love me and we deserve each other. This is getting REALLY REALLY old and I am so sick of it and ready to SCREAM!! I have turned the other cheek countless times with this woman, and she just keeps on doing this! There really is nothing that I can do to try and salvage any form of relationship with her. I have always tried to remind myself that she is not well, and she definitely does have some form of mental illness, but its still so hard to just sit there and deal with it when she is calling my baby names. I don’t want my daughter to be around her b/c she is so unpredictable and I have no idea how she will act or what she will say. I don’t tell her that…I really have not even had an actual conversation with her for a year. It’s just getting SOOOOO hard to deal with!!!
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6 Responses to “Seriously, I have the WORST mother in law on Earth!!!!!”
There’s no need to be turning the other cheek here, your MIL is a certified nutcase and you need to keep her away from your family.
What does hubby think about all of this?? With all of the hate letters and email that you have from her, I’m sure you would be able to file a restraining order from her, that way when she crosses the line next time, the nutso will be arrested.
Your MIL is beyond just being a maipulative controlling MIL, she’s downright crazy and seriously needs psychiatric help. Keep her away from your family at all costs.
Get that restraining order ASAP! Get a file on the stalking going too….file it with your local police. You need to protect yourself, your hubby, and your child.
I know. My husband always gets very upset when she goes on her rampages, and he won’t talk to her. But then she will call him a few weeks later crying, begging for forgiveness and he will just act like nothing ever happened…until the next rampage. When she was calling me so often I did call the police, but we lived in Hawaii at the time, and she lived in Ohio. So the police in Hawaii said to call the police in Ohio, and they said all they could do was tell me to change my #. Luckily we still live pretty far away from her so most of her fits are thrown via email or over the phone. I just DO NOT want her around my daughter EVER!! I have been saving her emails for the past year just in case I need them to file a restraining order or police report against her.
Don’t let her around your daughter….you are right on point there. If this nut job is willing to throw herself out of a car (lucky she didn’t kill her self instead of just bruising her ass), what is to keep her from trying to throw you, her son, or your child, out of the car? You need to make this point with the hubby….his mom is seven steps past over the line. She HAS TO BE KEPT AT A DISTANCE, forever if need be.
Check with your state and see if there are any internet stalking laws on the books.. Then call your local prosecutors office and see what your options are.. I think that in my state her emails are sort of boarder line because I’m not reading any threats just more-so harrassement.. But, it’s worth a shot.. I really encourage you to change your email addresses or block her from being able to email you.. I know how hard it can be to hit the delete key to an unread email but, really really try!
Someone who calls in infant such horrible things clearly is not in their right mind..
I really hope that your spouse is on board with keeping mil out of your lives because with someone this nuts, youre going to really need to be on the same path..
Do you know who her family physician is? Perhaps a phone call to the office is in order.. Let them know that her emails to you have been getting increasingly offbeat and down right scary.
Yes, why haven’t you changed your email address or blocked the nut job? You’re leaving yourself open to her attacks. You’re reacting to her craziness which is exactly what she wants. Don’t waste your time or energy being upset over something someone you know isn’t right in the head says.
Love your husband, your daughter, and yourself and rid yourself of this toxic woman. Best wishes to you.