Mother-in-Law HELL

When I first met my in laws, I thought that they were the nicest family in the world. Almost 7th Heavenish (they ruined the show for me, by the way!). I was 13. My SIL was friends with my baby sister. The FIL was a minister for a Lutheran church (so I thought, because he always brags about it). So then when I was 20, I started seeing my hubby (I’m 25 now and we’ve been married for 2 years).. well when my hubby and I first got together, his mother was always so weird. She would always say stuff like “I will always be his mother”, or “this isn’t the ghetto” (I don’t come from the nice side of the tracks). Her comments lasted for a long time. She even went as far as to wake me up at 8 oclock in the morning (I fell asleep in the basement while watching a movie and they didn’t mind as long as we slept in separate rooms and we respected their wishes – she always said “what would the neighbors think if a minister aloud that to go on in his house?”) because she wanted her grown ass son to get up and call about a job (knowing that they weren’t open yet) so she had told me that I had to go home. Well my only ride was from him, and after the MIL and my hubby argued and so on and time came to call the job, I asked him to take me home and she flipped out on me and said “since when is this about you” and never once said that I was welcome to stay, but instead called me a trouble maker for making him take me home? While all of this was going on, my FIL was being pretty cool about everything. We had dinner with him all of the time and enjoyed his company and then I realized that he was getting drunk at night before bed (but he’s a minister?)? After being together for almost two years, and knowing each other for 11 years we decided to get an apartment together (which his parents were EXTREMELY against) and we enjoyed every minute of it even though his mother would come over and rearrange furniture, and try to decorate my kitchen with some of the ugliest things that I have EVER seen. Living with him was awesome. We were doing great financially, I had an awesome job and when I didn’t I still did side jobs to make up for it. When we decided to get married, the in laws did not like it at all whatsoever. I once told them that we wanted to get married because we did not want to live in fornication anymore, and the ministers wife who made me sleep in the basement said that life wasn’t like that anymore? We had plans to get married in TN, just the two of us. My father just died, we still wanted to get married but I didn’t want everybody to see me balling my eyes out because of how much I wanted my father to be there. So after the in laws threw their fits, we decided to have a small church wedding (with my uncle marrying us, they had a problem with this to of course). My MIL still wasn’t satisfied with this. She wanted us to dress the part, and have a big reception afterwords and this is where my hubby put his foot down. So we got away with having just 20 guests (which was mainly my family, hehe). Now on the day that we got married, my in laws decided to let my hubby’s ex girlfriend move into their house (now where I came from, if my boyfriend was not ok with my ex’s being around, my parents would not let them around but that’s just not how they work) and they were even going as far as bringing her to the wedding but she didn’t get ready in time so my MIL was late. So instead they threw a birthday party for her son on the day that we got married. While his ex lived there for a little over a year, my MIL bounced back and forth between the ex and I on who she wanted to be nice to and who she wanted to pick on, whilst my FIL is sitting around being an alcoholic yet bragging about being a minister. Then they decide to beg us to move in with my FIL’s 92 yearold father whom they think has dementia (he really doesn’t, he’s really just a bastard). He’s always saying very mean remarks to my husband and I, telling us that we’re stupid and that we don’t know anything. He’s so full of himself that he once bought us a dog, but the dog didn’t like him so he sent the dog to my in laws. So we pretty much live in our bedroom, only to leave to go to school (he threatens to kick us out if we get jobs. He says that we should focus on only school and while I’m thankful that he’s doing this to help us out, we’re doing nothing to pay on our $40,000 school loans). He even went as far as throwing my tennis shoes away because they weren’t to his liking. There is so much more to tell, but I’m sure that I have been boredom to you already. I just simply needed to vent. This website is amazing. I’m so glad that my MIL is computer illiterate!!