I have dated a man for 2 yrs & married the same man last 2 months back,basically its a love marriage, until marriage all was going on fine.We had been to our honeymoon all went fine. After few days both my MIL & FIL came to my place to stay,when ever my husband & I would talk every time she used to poke her nose,one day when I fell sick I could not get up to make food my husband & MIL thought that I was doing a drama,I told them clearly that I was not well that day my husband was irritating me every 10min to get up & prepare food I told him how can I when I cant have strength to stand up even. I doing so I got irritated & slapped my husband but it did not touch his cheek instead it touched his neck. He then immediately called his mother inside our bedroom & involved his mother & he started crying in front of her she started abusing me saying how can u do this, but she did not knew that my husband being an educated man had already beaten me 4 times which no one knew as I did not disclose it. I told the same to her that day that her son also beaten me but it did not effect her instead she accused me of spoiling their family reputation that I am cheap & started abusing my mother,father & family. She even asked me to take her promise that whether I am seriously not well. That whole day I did not get up from bed neither did my husband get a doctor. I was bearing the pain all night. Next day at 3 pm he got a doctor she gave me 2 injections my MIL asks the doctor whether I am really not well or am I doing drama? Doctor also said I am not well may be that time she understood its true. Next day I got up as I was feeling bit fine I cooked the food but her abusing did not stop it, when mt husband would go to office she would abuse me, in front of my husband she used to pretend as if she is a nice MIL. Days passed by,one day my Mil’s younger brother (maternal Uncle to my husband) phoned me, he I spoke very low to him as all this had happened & I was sad but I did not reveal him any thing over phone. Immediately next day evening he (uncle) came to my house from other state. He asked me what was wrong I took him to a garden near by told him all the story about his own sis (my MIL) he felt bad but had his limitations so could not help. By then me & my husband stopped taking to each other. Next day happened to be my birthday uncle came to know he then arranged a cake & a dinner for he took us out but my husband was not interested to do anything he simply sat. Where in I used to celebrate my husbands birthday with great pomp. Next day they all said we will go back to their homes & my MIL told she will take her son along with hers & asked me to come along but I refused but to my surprise my husband left with her leaving me behind so I went to my mother home. Since then its been 10days hes still not returned nor did he go to his office,there was a marriage my MIL called me but refused to go but never did my husband return till now. I am so surprised that we dated for 2yrs he never behaved like this this showed as if he mama’s boy. Once upon a time he could never live without meeting me for a single day that same person has changed so much that he never calls nor did he come to take me. Where in these 2 years I have won MIL& FIL both hearts by celebrating their birthdays giving them gifts but all of sudden why this change in my MIL & my husband. As I loved him from my heart I still cannot live without him. What surprised me more was my husband involves her (MIL) in our fights taking an advantage of this my Mil accuses me that I have spoiled my husbands life talking all rubbish.
She has done the same with my sister in law (my husbands elder brothers wife) but she has beared all this for 5 yrs, she told my MIL that its enough of all this since 5 yrs & my sister in law kicked them out of her house.
I some times feels that my MIL have done some black magic on my husband so that he stays wth her & give her money when ever she demands. To justify this I have a reason- my MIL bribed astrologer & asked astrologer to change my horoscope & tell my husband that if he marries me he would be in debts & problems. this happened when we (My husband & me) told my MIL first time that we wanted to marry each other. Inspite of all his my husband married me “as I had already matched our horoscope from other astrologer before my MIL. So he came to know that his mother (my MIL) was tricking him just to avoid him to marry me.”
Please help me out, give me advice how to get rid of this issue & how to get rid of my in laws. What should I do to get back my husband.
Egarly waiting for your reply.
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4 Responses to “MIL – the main culprit”
Hi !
I would talk to your SIL. It sounds like she has the right idea. Plus maybe your hubby and his brother can talk about their mom and find a way to control her wacky behavior. You can apologize for hitting your husband, blame it on being sick. If he has hit you, then you need to go to marriage counseling to correct this very bad behavior. Counseling will also help him become a better husband, and help you both handle the MIL. I would be the best wife that you can be for him, and explain often how you feel. I would do nothing for the MIL. When she comes over, let him deal with her. It sounds like the MIL and hubby have a crazy relationship. You MIL may have already lost one son and DIL, now she may loose another. That should scare her.
1. Stop slapping your husband.
2. The next time your husband “beats” you, which is unacceptable, YOU need to file charges.
3. Both of you sound too immature to even be married.
4. Sonny Boy should stop involving Mumsey Wumsey in your private business.
5. Black magic can’t hurt you if you don’t believe in it.
6. Stop with the astrology and horoscope nonsense. You want to be inslaved by this hocus-pocus? Stop it. Take control of your life. The planets have nothing to do with it.
Hi
Omg, why dont these blokes get some balls and stand up for themselves and their wives because their scared, but let me tell you he will be missing you, mark my words, well heres my advise for you
Get yourself together join a dating site just go out their on dates (their dont have to be anything init) meet peopl out their ,get your self confidence back, it seriously works it did for me,belive me he will come running back to you when he knows you can do so much better and always stand up for yourself no one has the right to put you down not him and defo not his mother, when he knows you will not stand for it and show him
he will never find someone like you, and he will see that in time it took my ex 7 months for him to see it, it also took him 6 months for him to tell her we were engaged, but he came crawlin back, & I put him straight, and it took him 2 days to tell her we were back together we were almost divorced, I was very happy it only took him 2 days,
be the nice person and use your own words of wisdom, I know this is bad but when he eventually comes back play her game , its true what people say people will only treat you like crap if you let it so take a stand , he walked out not you,
You seem a nice lass a bit like me, you just take the crap & dont say anything, but if your not rockin the boat someone else is why should you take that you deserve so much better and you tell him that
Good luck 2 you x