HELP! I don’t want to do my wedding alone!
by missusa83 on 02/02 @ 3:02pmMy wedding is on January next year I’m a 24 year old women, I was so excited to wear my big white dress in front of everyone, party and everything.
My MIL has been extremely nice to me since the start but, she will not attend the wedding if “men” are in the same room. I want her to attend and so does my man. She married her previous son in a mixed wedding, why is she doing that to me? I don’t want two split rooms and my husband with the men what kind of wedding is that? How do I tell her I don’t want that with out hurting her and her attending because if she didn’t attend, I’d rather blow my big dreams since I was a little girl of my perfect wedding and not do anything at all.
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6 Responses to “HELP! I don’t want to do my wedding alone!”
Have your intended tell his mother you are sorry she won’t be attending. This is a control play on her part and the only way to handle it is to tell her you’ll miss her. Her choice to come or not….don’t worry about it or get upset, this is the perfect time to start growing your thick DIL skin on MIL’s wants.
Congratulations and hoist a flute of champane for me!
WTH? I dont understand this at all. No men? That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard and doesnt even make sense. Is she paying for it or something? Maybe you need to elaborate here. ???Confused???
She is obviously nuts, or maybe YOU are. I say YOU because if someone gave me such a silly request I would laugh in thier face and go ahead with my plans without giving it a second thought.
Is this a serious question? Really , cause that just makes NO sense. If you ARE serious, go ahead with your plans, dont tell her a thing, or just laugh at her when she acts wierd, give her an invitation and whether she shows up is her problem not yours. Your wedding will be beautiful regardless and the only one looking like a fool will be her.
Frankly, you do not provide enough information for us to help you with this issue. Does your future MIL not want “men” in the room due to religious reasons? Is she Amish? What do you mean by her other son having a “mixed” marriage?
You should not be throwing away what you want in a wedding for MIL, however, if she is a nice lady except for this strange demand, perhaps there is some way you can make her happy or accomodate her. Without us knowing why she wants this arrangement, there is no way to help you.
HONEY, NO! Do NOT give up the wedding YOU have always wanted for her!
It sounds to me like she’s Orthodox Jewish, but I apologize if I’m wrong. If you give in to this demand, she’s going to expect you to give in to all others, especially wrt religious issues.
I agree. If this is a religious issue (sounds like it might be), and you cave, she will expect the same (her way) on everything in the future. Start putting your foot down now. Even if it is in her behind.
Hand MIL a pair of binoculars and tell her there will be no men in the parking lot across the street from the wedding and she can watch the action from there.Don’t cave in to her ridiculous demands.This day is not all about her,it’s YOURS and YOUR HUSBANDS.If Mommy doesn’t like it,tough sh*t.You are setting the tone with your wedding day of what our whole married life will be,so start off firm and break your foot off in MILs *ss.You will have to do less backtracking and correcting later if you do this now.Good luck to you and happy Wedding Day!