It took 7 years but I told the old hag off!
by Ife on 01/21 @ 3:08pmI’m Nigerian, live in the US and have been married for 12 years. My MIL and FIL came to stay with us for 5 months when I was pregnant with my 3rd child. They made my life a living hell, told me that my house was shabby, I didn’t take care of my kids, they were going to get another wife for my husband and they were disgusted that their son actually impregnated me. Plus I had to cook for them constantly and scrub the bathroom every week, cos the MIL couldn’t stand an unwashed bathroom.
MIL played horrible games with my kids, trying to make them like her more than they liked me. It was terrible! She also criticized everything I did. She got so upset once when she saw my husband washing dishes.
Fast forward 6 years. After they left, didn’t talk to them for years. The MIL asked to speak to me once and she said some rubbish to me, cut her off before she finished. They came to stay with their other son in the US about 2 years ago. Hardly had anything to do with them except when they wanted their daughter’s 2 teenage kids to come stay with us in the US, I have 3 kids of my own people.
Anyways, they went back to Nigeria, hadn’t talked to them in 1.5 years, hubby wanted me to talk to them during the new years (2010), spoke to them reluctantly and MIL told me in her usual nasty tone to make sure that I take care of her kids (my kids). I was so mad, but didn’t say anything. Finally, I called her 3 weeks later and CURSED HER OUT. I told her that she should never in her life call me and tell me to take care of my own kids. I told her that I gave birth to them, worked my ass off, went to school, just to take care of them. Repeated myself a couple of times. Told her that I understood that she was coming back to the US, but that she had better not come to my house or come anywhere near my kids. I was yelling at the top of my voice. For the first time in her miserable life she was speechless!!! It felt good!
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5 Responses to “It took 7 years but I told the old hag off!”
Good for you for finally standing up for yourself! I would have instantly corrected MIL if she had called my kids hers. My MIL used to to say things like “our baby” and I told my DH to tell her to stop saying that because it was MY baby that I carried, gave birth to and cared for.
When your MIL comes back to the US, make sure that you stick by what you said. If she comes a-knocking on your door, leave her out there until she gets tired of waiting. If she wants to create a scene, have the police escort her old a*** off your property.
Can I give you my mil’s number?!?!
Yayyyy! You kicked the Old Bat right in her *ss and rendered her SPEECHLESSS !!!!!!!!!!! Good for you and let’s hope her trap stays SHUT!!!!!!!
Ha! You may have invented a new MIL service! DIL’s can send you their numbers, and for a small fee, you can call them up and scream at them for awhile.
I’d probably use this service once a week — at least!
There are always two sides to a coin. MIL that simply listens to your rants might simply be confirming her thoughts of you. Not to spoil your 5 minutes of fame IFE but hope you go it off your chest. Finally, let it end there.