Mother-in-Law HELL

Hi everyone,
I am looking for an unbiased view and any advice would be helpful. Just so you all have a little background, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. I am 22, my boyfriend is 24. We went to high school together he was a senior and I was a freshman and we began to speak again after he joined the navy. We wrote emails and called each other every chance we could until it became what it is today. He was stationed in Hawaii and I have been back here on the East Coast going to college full time. He recently got a new billet and is now on the East Coast with me and just a couple hour drive. We got our first apartment together (even though I won’t live there technically until I graduate in May) I still go down there as often as…

Does your MIL treat all her children the same?? Mine is crazy with her son and I (and our kids), but not her daughters and their husbands and children.

From talking with Girlfriends who are Daughter-in-Laws (DIL’s), these are the TOP TEN Mistakes Mother-in-Law’s (MIL’s) Make
1. Criticizing the DIL’s House Cleaning (Directly or Indirectly):
2. Criticizing the DIL’s Appearance (weight, new hair cut, clothes, etc.)
3. Giving Shallow Gifts to DIL or DIL’s children: (used items, items that don’t fit, useless items, out of season items, unused items/old gifts from your own house, cheap gifts when others receive expensive gifts, etc.)
4. Showing Preference or Favoritism for One DIL or Grandchild(ren) over another
5. Badmouthing the DIL to other family members or allowing other family members to badmouth the DIL. Big “No No”: Badmouthing DIL in front of DIL’s own children; you’ll quickly lose all “grandchild visitation rights”
6. Telling your DIL how to parent, cook, clean, etc. If she didn’t ask for the advice, don’t give it. She has her own mother and friends to offer help; your advice will most likely come…

So this is my story….. I have been married for 16 years, been together for 19 years, you’d think things would change for the better.

Back in August, my IL’s came over after a family member tried to stir up trouble. Long story short, in the meeting with the IL’s, my MIL when I asked her what I had done to be treated so poorly by her, she said “you’re a wedge between my son and I”. She was nasty and her husband (FIL) just let her be nasty. My husband corrected his mom and it was decided that SHE would work on her behavior toward me.

4 months go by- no calls, no contacts, no nothing- no attempts to relate. Early December- my mother in law shows up UNIVITED to my home, walks in when I was home alone and doesn’t even get in my house 5 feet and starts demanding…

My mil has always had ‘chores’ (yes as if he was still 10 years old) for her son to do. Cleaning out the gutters on her house, painting rooms, fixing this, installing that, but lately it has gotten really bad. Not only has the number of ‘chores’ increased but the level of time and skill it takes to do them has increased. And, when she talks about doing something, its always she’s going to do something, but what it really means is HE’S going to have to do it. So that really annoys me.
Example: she told me recently that she is going to research buying a new tv then she is going to mount it to the wall. What this really meant was she is going to make her son research what tv to buy, then he will have to run the cable and install a new cable outlet (because…

I wanted to thank you guys for having the courage to write about what is going on with you MILs and ofthe ILs. I don’t even know where to begin with mine, though I am not sure I think she is the devil, she sure acts like she has a demon. When my husband and I met, he had kids from a previous marriage and so did I. And from the moment they met, our kids did not have an issue with each other. Then our ex’s found out about us and they tried to poison the kids against one another and against us. For the most part, we stayed positive and focused so much of being a unit that the only negative they got was when they were gone. That was until my MIL started spending more time with us. She basically reminded my skids that their mother used…

We are newlyweds, and new college grads. My husband has been unemployed for approximately 4 months. I’m encouraging him to take his time. Its important that he find the RIGHT position. Unfortunately our savings has been depleted. My salary is consumed by our monthly expenses. This is a heavy but manageable burden. Two months ago my mother-in-law began helping financially. She provided groceries on two occasions, and made a car payment. I humbly accepted. The help was very much appreciated. Today, her gracious generosity took a nasty turn. A disagreement began when she insisted that I ask my parents for money. This is unacceptable. We are adults. I did not ask for assistance, it was offered. She left on bad terms, and I’m afraid this will taint our relationship permanently.

I’m confused, and need advice. Please provide me with some perspective. Why is she upset with me? Am I too proud?…