I have a mother in law that has a ton of health issues, on top of that is always seeking my fiance for financial support. She is often in a depressive state because her three children are never around. She calls threatning to kill her self and often crying seeking attention. She loves for my fiance to trat her like a baby. It is so annoying and I can’t stand it. I have started to express myself to my fiance but I feel I am doing it in a rude manner. How can I be polite when expressing to him that she is an attention seeker is manioulative and needs to get on with it? Its always all about her, she never plans anything for her kids, she wants everyone to do for her but she never does for anyone,
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6 Responses to “Mother n law thats needy and annoying!”
Read up on narcissistic personality disorders and the effects of narcissistic mothers on children (good “narcissitic mother”). What kind of relationship does your fiance have with her? She may have driven her kids away from her with all her bad behavior. The book Emotional Blackmail by susan forward is also good for providing strategies to deal with people like this. At the most extreme, your fiance should call her out on her behavior. If she threatens suicide, CALL 911. Tell them you are worried about her and that she is making threats to her life. Maybe that will stop her antics. Then again, it might also get her the psychiatric evaluation she may need…
sorry, I meant google “narcissitic mother”. there’s nothing good about a narcissistic mother!!!!
When she calls threatening to hurt herself….CALL 911 and report it. Let them make the choice if she needs to undergo observation for 72 hours in a mental hospital. And please, don’t inform her you are going to do this…just call.
I LOVE the advice about calling 911!!! Either she gets the help she so desperately needs or she STOPS this ridiculous behavior if she is faking it. Bravo, ladies!
If your fiancee is a Momma’s Boy, then there is no hope for your relationship with him to proceed. If he has a spine, then you need to sit him down and establish boundaries with this troll so she does not insert herself into YOUR life as well. That is the last thing you need.
You think things are bad now, she will get worse after you are married. If your fiancee cannot step back and see this woman for what she is and her guilt trips work on him, then you both need to see a couples therapist before you even consider tying the knot.
ns hit the nail right on the head.
I would also be concerned about him
supporting her financially.Where does it end?
What if you marry him and produce kids?How will
her insisting on financial support take off of your kids?
He has been manipulated and mentally abused by her
for so long,he has Stockholm Syndrome.
memorise what ns said and do it when she pulls her next stunt.
Yep these ladies hit it right on the head! I couldnt have said it better myself. I hope you will take their advice, they know what they are talking about.
911 is the best! Once she is put on a “5150″ hold, she will be embarassed and in trouble and will not do that again. Counseling could help you guys talk it through. It helps to have a mediator if you are not being “sensitive” enough to his poor little “feelings”