Comments on: The worst of them all!!!!! http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/ Mother-in-Law Advice and Mother-in-Law Stories Thu, 09 Sep 2010 14:05:00 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: MoML http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8870 MoML Mon, 07 Dec 2009 11:28:11 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8870 I agree with alot of people saying you should of thought about a babysitter before you got pregnant. I dont trust my mother (alcoholic) or my crazy MIL and so when my husband and I have a baby we are going to invest alot into a babysitter (which I already have a girl in mind) there are people willing to babysit, who are really good at it. And it is even their career. You should look into that instead...try Sittercity.com. But if you care for your baby. Don't let your crazy mother in law do that. Also, If your husband knows she stole the money, why is he still saying trust her? Isn't that a good reason to just throw it all on the table and say "forget this crazy lady, peace out" ?? I agree with alot of people saying you should of thought about a babysitter before you got pregnant. I dont trust my mother (alcoholic) or my crazy MIL and so when my husband and I have a baby we are going to invest alot into a babysitter (which I already have a girl in mind) there are people willing to babysit, who are really good at it. And it is even their career. You should look into that instead…try Sittercity.com.

But if you care for your baby. Don’t let your crazy mother in law do that. Also, If your husband knows she stole the money, why is he still saying trust her? Isn’t that a good reason to just throw it all on the table and say “forget this crazy lady, peace out” ??

]]> By: Potter Wife http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8692 Potter Wife Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:06:51 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8692 I recommend you do not let this Evil being anywhere near your child. My MIL put my son facedown on a pillow when he was 3 months old, (she said she never did it even though i saw her and yelled at her) and now when i do see her I follow her room to room when she is holding my son. Just to make sure she doesn't do something to him. Dont speak to her unless you absolutely have to, hi, bye, yes, no. It will save you lots of stress. Now take care of yourself and that baby! I recommend you do not let this Evil being anywhere near your child. My MIL put my son facedown on a pillow when he was 3 months old, (she said she never did it even though i saw her and yelled at her) and now when i do see her I follow her room to room when she is holding my son. Just to make sure she doesn’t do something to him. Dont speak to her unless you absolutely have to, hi, bye, yes, no. It will save you lots of stress. Now take care of yourself and that baby!

]]> By: vasugisg http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8673 vasugisg Fri, 27 Nov 2009 13:05:09 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8673 Oh my god!! Welcome to my world honey.....you know..my MIL is actually exactly like yours..she was so nice to me in the beginning and after I got married and moved in with her...the nightmare started....I tolerated her until my first baby got born. She begun to take control of the baby and did not ask my permission...Me THE MOTHER anything. She gave the baby water when i told her she should not, she wanted to name the baby herself etc. One time, my baby was crying and I knew she was crying because she was tired. But my MIL, who was only with the baby for like 10mins a day said no, she is hungry. When I denied that, she tried to offer her breast to my daughter. That is when I exploded!!!! I told her I hated her to the core and that she should not interfere with my issues. MY husband was not home at that time. I gave her a peace of my mind and told her never to interfere in my life and my babies life and never to talk to me anymore!!! As for my husband...he did not like what I did. But I told him...either you get me a divorce..or let me just stay away from that woman! He had no choice. But I allowed to let him show the baby to her under the condition that my husband has to be beside her all the time and make sure she does not do or give anything to the baby. I am still living in the same house..with the bedroom locked and much happier. Though my husband still thinks that his mother did no wrong.... Oh my god!! Welcome to my world honey…..you know..my MIL is actually exactly like yours..she was so nice to me in the beginning and after I got married and moved in with her…the nightmare started….I tolerated her until my first baby got born.

She begun to take control of the baby and did not ask my permission…Me THE MOTHER anything. She gave the baby water when i told her she should not, she wanted to name the baby herself etc. One time, my baby was crying and I knew she was crying because she was tired. But my MIL, who was only with the baby for like 10mins a day said no, she is hungry. When I denied that, she tried to offer her breast to my daughter. That is when I exploded!!!!

I told her I hated her to the core and that she should not interfere with my issues. MY husband was not home at that time. I gave her a peace of my mind and told her never to interfere in my life and my babies life and never to talk to me anymore!!!

As for my husband…he did not like what I did. But I told him…either you get me a divorce..or let me just stay away from that woman! He had no choice. But I allowed to let him show the baby to her under the condition that my husband has to be beside her all the time and make sure she does not do or give anything to the baby. I am still living in the same house..with the bedroom locked and much happier.

Though my husband still thinks that his mother did no wrong….

]]> By: Fairylights http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8669 Fairylights Thu, 26 Nov 2009 20:08:49 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8669 If this nutter is stealing you need to keep your distance big time - you could report her to the police so if she kicks off about you not contacting her tell her she is very lucky that you haven't got the police involved. Good luck with this - I think you will need it. Stay away from her as much as you can. If this nutter is stealing you need to keep your distance big time – you could report her to the police so if she kicks off about you not contacting her tell her she is very lucky that you haven’t got the police involved.

Good luck with this – I think you will need it. Stay away from her as much as you can.

]]> By: mbala http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8668 mbala Thu, 26 Nov 2009 06:46:29 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8668 I am sorry I dont want to be rude. Your husband lets her get away with hitting and slapping you? And you are having a baby with your prized husband? And you do not have someone to help you around with ? Before you go deep could you find out whose side is your husband actually on? And whether he has those precious jewels to stand for you against him dear mom? I am sorry I dont want to be rude. Your husband lets her get away with hitting and slapping you? And you are having a baby with your prized husband? And you do not have someone to help you around with ? Before you go deep could you find out whose side is your husband actually on? And whether he has those precious jewels to stand for you against him dear mom?

]]> By: Diabolical Daughter-In-Law http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8665 Diabolical Daughter-In-Law Wed, 25 Nov 2009 21:51:35 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8665 She's not safe for your kid. Talk to your doctor and get hooked up with a social worker at the hospital -- there are often a lot of resources for new moms, and the more you take advantage of those, the less need you'll have for Crazy MIL. That'll make it harder for her to worm her nasty little way into your relationship with your own child. She’s not safe for your kid. Talk to your doctor and get hooked up with a social worker at the hospital — there are often a lot of resources for new moms, and the more you take advantage of those, the less need you’ll have for Crazy MIL. That’ll make it harder for her to worm her nasty little way into your relationship with your own child.

]]> By: sargirl http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8645 sargirl Wed, 25 Nov 2009 01:30:33 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8645 Congratulations on your pregnancy. You deserve the space and peace of mind to enjoy this stage in your life without any menace. Trust your instincts, they are bang-on. You guys have got to get as far away from this woman as possible. For the sake of your family, get out now before she does something insane. Your baby does not deserve this kind of threatening, unstable, lying, hateful craziness. Always ask yourself what is in your family's best interest. Focus on your priorities. As for Hubby, he needs to get on the same page as you before it's too late. Keep talking to him and if he gets angry, tell him that your feelings have to matter to him. You are life partners - yuo need to speak and act as one voice. Congratulations on your pregnancy. You deserve the space and peace of mind to enjoy this stage in your life without any menace. Trust your instincts, they are bang-on. You guys have got to get as far away from this woman as possible. For the sake of your family, get out now before she does something insane. Your baby does not deserve this kind of threatening, unstable, lying, hateful craziness. Always ask yourself what is in your family’s best interest. Focus on your priorities. As for Hubby, he needs to get on the same page as you before it’s too late. Keep talking to him and if he gets angry, tell him that your feelings have to matter to him. You are life partners – yuo need to speak and act as one voice.

]]> By: bitchonastick http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8643 bitchonastick Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:51:51 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8643 Your husbands gotta stick up for you. Shoot, I say that but I cant even get my OWN husband to stick up for ME. Hopefully you can just put your foot down about certain things! I have NO one to help with my 8 month old baby, but my husband. He works full time and I have a part time job in the evening and money is tight but we make it work. Dont let her "HELP" you. You will sell your soul. Or she will drown your babies in the bathtub while you are gone. Crazy people actually do this. Good luck. -BOS Your husbands gotta stick up for you. Shoot, I say that but I cant even get my OWN husband to stick up for ME. Hopefully you can just put your foot down about certain things!
I have NO one to help with my 8 month old baby, but my husband. He works full time and I have a part time job in the evening and money is tight but we make it work.
Dont let her “HELP” you. You will sell your soul. Or she will drown your babies in the bathtub while you are gone. Crazy people actually do this.
Good luck.
-BOS

]]> By: DeDe G http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8640 DeDe G Tue, 24 Nov 2009 22:30:07 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8640 My DH and I have no one to help us with our baby and we do just fine. You do not have to let that crazy ass near your baby. I work days and he got a night job. Also there is a program called Head Start that does low income day care and they are some of the best daycares around. (I work for the county in Foster and Adoptions and I have family that are directors of big fancy daycare centers) Head Start is a state run program so the teachers and facilities have to pass very strict codes. These are not welfare children either cause both parents have to be working to qualify. Its just low income. Ive been to many of them and they are cleaner than regular day care and the cost is depending on your income $5 to $25 per week. Im sure it will get your MILs goat something aweful but this is your baby and you have to do whats best for your family not pulling your hair out worrying all day at work. Dude I dont even arrgue with DH about MIL, I just make my decisions and do what I want and if he has a problem with it I smile sweetly and open that golden pu**y. My DH and I have no one to help us with our baby and we do just fine. You do not have to let that crazy ass near your baby. I work days and he got a night job. Also there is a program called Head Start that does low income day care and they are some of the best daycares around. (I work for the county in Foster and Adoptions and I have family that are directors of big fancy daycare centers) Head Start is a state run program so the teachers and facilities have to pass very strict codes. These are not welfare children either cause both parents have to be working to qualify. Its just low income. Ive been to many of them and they are cleaner than regular day care and the cost is depending on your income $5 to $25 per week. Im sure it will get your MILs goat something aweful but this is your baby and you have to do whats best for your family not pulling your hair out worrying all day at work. Dude I dont even arrgue with DH about MIL, I just make my decisions and do what I want and if he has a problem with it I smile sweetly and open that golden pu**y.

]]> By: Jen http://motherinlawhell.com/2009/11/the-worst-of-them-all/comment-page-1/#comment-8628 Jen Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:02:38 +0000 http://motherinlawhell.com/?p=4012#comment-8628 Hon, I'm not sure what you want us all to say. Basically what you wrote is: my MIL is crazy, my husband doesn't stick up for me, now I'm pregnant, and we're going to let her help us care for the baby even though I hate her. Ummm...something is a little off with all of you. Sorry. If you have no other choice (as you say) than to leave your newborn first child with a pathologically disturbed person, then I'm not sure anyone here can give you advice. Hon, I’m not sure what you want us all to say. Basically what you wrote is: my MIL is crazy, my husband doesn’t stick up for me, now I’m pregnant, and we’re going to let her help us care for the baby even though I hate her. Ummm…something is a little off with all of you. Sorry.

If you have no other choice (as you say) than to leave your newborn first child with a pathologically disturbed person, then I’m not sure anyone here can give you advice.

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