I think my mother in law tops them all! I think she is truly insane!! Her son and I have been together for about three years, and married for one year. From the first day I met this lady, she told me she loved me and that I was so pretty and bla bla bla. She would tell me this every time I seen her, trust me, its annoying and creepy to be constantly adored when you first meet someone. She does not do it as much, but in the beginning it was non stop. Well first off, she steals, any and everything she can she will steal. One time, my husband cashed his paycheck, put all of it in his wallet. Went to his parents house to visit, he put his wallet on the coffee table and fell asleep on the couch. When he woke up, his mother sent him to the store I guess and as soon as he reached the car, he realized 300+ was all missing from his wallet. He threw the biggest fit because he knew she stole it. He tore their whole house apart and could not find it. When I got home from work he told me about it and I called up there to see if she had seen any money laying around. She told me she had no idea what happened and bla bla bla. Then we told them we were not going to pay the rent this month, which me, my hubby, and his brother shared a double wide that was connected with their house as far as the rent goes. She decided that she had 200 dollars saved up and would give it to her son as a early bday present to help up keep caught up. (early as in 6 months) we know she stole it. She has stolen clothes of me, lotion off me, tried to steal a key to our locked bedroom so she could snoop through our room. She has been wanting us to get pregnant since she first met me so she could have a grand baby so she stole my birth control out of my room…I found it in her room. When we moved out to get our own place, she fought with us literally!! Me and her got into a yelling match, she even went so far as to disown her own son over being with me, screamed I had a golden private part that was stealing her son away from her and she attacked me. She started hitting me and slapping me and I never, not even once, touched her. Then she told everyone I beat her up and her son did nothing to stop me and that we stole numerous things out of there house which the only thing we took that was not ours they gave to us. Then we went through her calling leaving hateful voice mails. If we did not call her three + times a week or see them every week she would leave messages like “well it would be nice to see you guys, (my name here ) I just want to see my son, if thats ok with you. could you tell him I called, I know you wont tell him though” messages like that went on and on and even worse than that at times. Now here is the big one. I am pregnant. She is excited, but I am telling you now, she is one of those types of people she would try and steal my baby, or she would try to take over the mother role. She is mentally unstable I am sure of that and we have no one else to help us out with the baby but her. I would not be surprised to walk in and see her trying to breast feed my child. Something is off with her. Or maybe its just because I hate her that much I would imagine her doing it. She constanlty tells people that, and I quote ” oh I cant believe my girl is having my baby…..I have been telling everyone that my girl is having a baby” I then responded …”NO your son is having a baby you are not my mom, I have too many moms I dont need anymore” she shut up real quick. I am telling you she is a nightmare. I try to talk to my husband but it ends up in a fight about how I hate his mom and my family is not much better. I dont know what to do. If she babysits, she is the type that would steal baby clothes and diapers and take them to her house and then tell us “look what I bought for the baby” or maybe try and hide them… (she has actually stolen something off me, that we snooped and stole back and she had the nerve to call and leave a message saying how dare we steal off her and go through her things) going to have to buy a lot of locks for our bedroom ect to keep her out. my hubby says just trust her, because he does and she wont do anything mean to the baby because we dont get a long….ya ok maybe…but psychologically I dont think she is safe.
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12 Responses to “The worst of them all!!!!!”
As to being mentally on track, your hubby isn’t a great prize either! Maybe he is conditioned to believe whatever MOM does is ok, the stealing money right out of his wallet, the theft of your birth control, having to LOCK your damn bedroom door all of the time, being accused of stealing things that have been given to you….see, this tip of the iceberg?
It is way past time you find a place for just the two of you. Get out of the shared double wide and find a small one bedroom apt or a studio. Go see if you can get on the list for low-income housing…..just get moving before you child arrives.
Have you ever considered that hubby could have spent the money on something else and conveniently told you she “stole” it? He is no prize if he knows his mother’s background, plops his wallet down and promptly falls asleep. What a moron.
It looks like you were finally able to move out on your own. The sentence that really gets me is “we have no one else to help us out with the baby but her.” Are you crazy? If you knew this, then you never should have gotten pregnant.
Find somebody else to care for your baby before it arrives. If you want a messed up kid and more Jerry Springer style living, then by all means hand your baby over to that nutter and see what happens.
Hon, I’m not sure what you want us all to say. Basically what you wrote is: my MIL is crazy, my husband doesn’t stick up for me, now I’m pregnant, and we’re going to let her help us care for the baby even though I hate her. Ummm…something is a little off with all of you. Sorry.
If you have no other choice (as you say) than to leave your newborn first child with a pathologically disturbed person, then I’m not sure anyone here can give you advice.
My DH and I have no one to help us with our baby and we do just fine. You do not have to let that crazy ass near your baby. I work days and he got a night job. Also there is a program called Head Start that does low income day care and they are some of the best daycares around. (I work for the county in Foster and Adoptions and I have family that are directors of big fancy daycare centers) Head Start is a state run program so the teachers and facilities have to pass very strict codes. These are not welfare children either cause both parents have to be working to qualify. Its just low income. Ive been to many of them and they are cleaner than regular day care and the cost is depending on your income $5 to $25 per week. Im sure it will get your MILs goat something aweful but this is your baby and you have to do whats best for your family not pulling your hair out worrying all day at work. Dude I dont even arrgue with DH about MIL, I just make my decisions and do what I want and if he has a problem with it I smile sweetly and open that golden pu**y.
Your husbands gotta stick up for you. Shoot, I say that but I cant even get my OWN husband to stick up for ME. Hopefully you can just put your foot down about certain things!
I have NO one to help with my 8 month old baby, but my husband. He works full time and I have a part time job in the evening and money is tight but we make it work.
Dont let her “HELP” you. You will sell your soul. Or she will drown your babies in the bathtub while you are gone. Crazy people actually do this.
Good luck.
-BOS
Congratulations on your pregnancy. You deserve the space and peace of mind to enjoy this stage in your life without any menace. Trust your instincts, they are bang-on. You guys have got to get as far away from this woman as possible. For the sake of your family, get out now before she does something insane. Your baby does not deserve this kind of threatening, unstable, lying, hateful craziness. Always ask yourself what is in your family’s best interest. Focus on your priorities. As for Hubby, he needs to get on the same page as you before it’s too late. Keep talking to him and if he gets angry, tell him that your feelings have to matter to him. You are life partners – yuo need to speak and act as one voice.
She’s not safe for your kid. Talk to your doctor and get hooked up with a social worker at the hospital — there are often a lot of resources for new moms, and the more you take advantage of those, the less need you’ll have for Crazy MIL. That’ll make it harder for her to worm her nasty little way into your relationship with your own child.
I am sorry I dont want to be rude. Your husband lets her get away with hitting and slapping you? And you are having a baby with your prized husband? And you do not have someone to help you around with ? Before you go deep could you find out whose side is your husband actually on? And whether he has those precious jewels to stand for you against him dear mom?
If this nutter is stealing you need to keep your distance big time – you could report her to the police so if she kicks off about you not contacting her tell her she is very lucky that you haven’t got the police involved.
Good luck with this – I think you will need it. Stay away from her as much as you can.
Oh my god!! Welcome to my world honey…..you know..my MIL is actually exactly like yours..she was so nice to me in the beginning and after I got married and moved in with her…the nightmare started….I tolerated her until my first baby got born.
She begun to take control of the baby and did not ask my permission…Me THE MOTHER anything. She gave the baby water when i told her she should not, she wanted to name the baby herself etc. One time, my baby was crying and I knew she was crying because she was tired. But my MIL, who was only with the baby for like 10mins a day said no, she is hungry. When I denied that, she tried to offer her breast to my daughter. That is when I exploded!!!!
I told her I hated her to the core and that she should not interfere with my issues. MY husband was not home at that time. I gave her a peace of my mind and told her never to interfere in my life and my babies life and never to talk to me anymore!!!
As for my husband…he did not like what I did. But I told him…either you get me a divorce..or let me just stay away from that woman! He had no choice. But I allowed to let him show the baby to her under the condition that my husband has to be beside her all the time and make sure she does not do or give anything to the baby. I am still living in the same house..with the bedroom locked and much happier.
Though my husband still thinks that his mother did no wrong….
I recommend you do not let this Evil being anywhere near your child. My MIL put my son facedown on a pillow when he was 3 months old, (she said she never did it even though i saw her and yelled at her) and now when i do see her I follow her room to room when she is holding my son. Just to make sure she doesn’t do something to him. Dont speak to her unless you absolutely have to, hi, bye, yes, no. It will save you lots of stress. Now take care of yourself and that baby!
I agree with alot of people saying you should of thought about a babysitter before you got pregnant. I dont trust my mother (alcoholic) or my crazy MIL and so when my husband and I have a baby we are going to invest alot into a babysitter (which I already have a girl in mind) there are people willing to babysit, who are really good at it. And it is even their career. You should look into that instead…try Sittercity.com.
But if you care for your baby. Don’t let your crazy mother in law do that. Also, If your husband knows she stole the money, why is he still saying trust her? Isn’t that a good reason to just throw it all on the table and say “forget this crazy lady, peace out” ??