Bridal Luncheon Ruined BY the Evil MIL
by bean1380 on 11/15 @ 10:19pmI have a very tumultuous relationship with my now husbands family. We got married last weekend. So to give everyone the rundown or background .
Got engaged a year ago
Found out I was pregnant- we both decided not to tell anyone because his family was upset with the engagement ( not supportive I had to hear his sister tell people I didn’t know he was getting engaged etc etc) ( We dated for 1.5 years and knew each other for 9), and since it was a surprise I wanted all the time to do everything how I wanted and have no one in our business.
In- laws – thought they should have been in the loop since the pee stick phase. Yeah right!!!! They were pissed. We were called Liars and morally incompatent. Nice how things change when you bring a beautiful healthy baby girl into the world
Our beautiful perfectly healthy baby girl is born 
Best Day of my life! The Evil little wench holds the baby and I get pissed. Not only that she puts on this act that all she wants to do is “help”. Not once after the baby is born did we get a dinner….. we got an ugly plant and people coming over stressing me out. Again not even thinking of makingmy husbands life better or helping him.
Then she intentionally doesn’t listen to me with our daughter to make me mad to get to spend more time with my husband.
We plan our wedding after the birth of our daughter. The mother Theresa of Mother- In – Laws decides that since she got a free vacation she should leave 2 weeks before her son’s wedding. Not normal. So weird.
All the while claiming that she wants to help. In the meantime putting so much extra work on me and trying to help by watching our daughter. Which of course is easier for me to be with her than to have someone watch her. Not to mention that our daughter is wigged out by them because they stress me out!!! I felt bad for my fiance that his family wasn’t around during that time. I don’t have a mother and I know what it’s like not to have the needed support.
Shower gift……… After I hear all this drama about how my sister- in laws MIl was so rude and got mad that her mom( my MIL) bought so many gifts for her and that is was so awkward and rude blah blah blah. I get a 7.99 red plate that read ” you are special” buy off the registry please……. I am a designer and have very specific taste. But an ugly insulting plate give me a break. Why bother just don’t even try
Ok so this is where it gets really good. (I have a step- mom who is four years older than me and believe me that has its challenges but nothing compared to dealing with the evil in laws.)
My step- mom hosts a bridal luncheon for me the day before the wedding. Which of course the MIL is invited. I thought she wouldn’t come but she did. So I thought that she would maybe pull it together since earlier that week she made an awful impression at our daughter’s baptism. Saying things under her breath and just being plain rude.
Everyone is saying a nice story about me or my husband and I and it comes her turn and she says some story how I came to there house with another guy and she didn’t know the relationship and that’s it.
The table goes silent. My step-mom the host quickly tries to repair the situation.
The funny part about this is she has know about me for 10 years. My husband and I were friends for 8 years before we got together. If you can’t think of anything to say at least say that I am a good mother or that you appreciate the oportunity to be a grandmother or something. Not you didn’t know the relationship…… She was just pissed that everyone had ten years of stories about my husband and I or whatever.
Not sure how I am going to handle the holidays with the evil witch. I can’t even be around them without getting mad and my daughter getting upset. It’s a bit ridiculous!!!!!! Help me…………
Ok so whatever……. we all know she is lame but were it gets worse it tha backlash………….. I have to hear from everyone afterwards that she was so mean etc etc and that pisses me off to no end.
To make matters worse at the rehersal dinner she refused to talkt to my family. My brother walks up to her to say hello thank you etc etc and the %^&* walks away.
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10 Responses to “Bridal Luncheon Ruined BY the Evil MIL”
And what the heck does your Hubby say about all this crap? If he is on board with defending you? Has he yanked his family’s leash up tight yet? If he is there for you….cut his TOXIC, repeat TOXIC, family off. Have the holidays at your family’s place or start your own traditions. Do things as a new family and let the others do their own thing.
You should be happy. You have the perfect Xmas gift to send… A nice red plate that says , “You’re Special.”
Send it through the mail and wash your hands of this mess of a family. Limit your conversations to “hi” and “bye” and you’ll be a lot happier. I know I am!
Sounds like My MIL. She’s a true Nut Case. She gave me a skillet for my wedding. yep, a skillet. That’s it.
She hasn’t seen my Daughter since she was 2 months old.
I haven’t spoken to her since last Christmas and with any hope I won’t speak to her this Christmas either.
I can’t stand her. My Blood Pressure goes up when I hear her voice or see her. I don’t want her around my Daughter AT ALL.
On the upside I haven’t spoken to her in nearly a year and it’s been the best past few months I’ve had in a LOONG time. Very Little Drama.
luvnnrs, Wow, your MIL sounds like mine. She always buys me “cookware”, like she’s trying to tell me something. Even after I tell her not to buy me anything!
I don’t want her seeing my daughter at all either. And I’m so hoping I can find a doctor that can tell me that she is toxic to my health and to stay away from her if I want to live. But, I haven’t found that doctor yet.
She probably wouldn’t leave me alone anyway, even if a doctor told her that she would be the death of me lol.
My advice to you, bean1380, is just to ignore, ignore, ignore. Pretend she doesn’t exists. Accidently bump into her like she’s invisible! haha, that would be funny. I’m know I’m immature, but I gotta act like that just to get laughs, cause really life with MIL is horrible!
I wish you luck. Hopefully she won’t be “around” for long.
Rebecca is right. Ignore the bat and find someone you can laugh about her with. It does me a world of good. After each horrid MIL/FIL (he is just as bad) I send out a MIL report to a select few who know my plight and we all have a great big laugh! If she only knew!
Oh yeah! I have a few friends that I vent to. I call it the “Daily B*tch Report” I send it out in text messages to my friends. It always starts off with “Let me tell you what the crazy b*tch did today!” Ah!
My report is entitled “The MS Report” (MS is her her nickname — for “Mother Superior” because she is so “holy” and knows best too (a “superior” mother to me). I start my reports out with, ‘Here are a few gems from the last visit…” Everyone LOVES reading them!
Rebecca,
Worry no more! DR. LOUISE is in and has determined that you are allergic to your MIL. She is toxic to you and your well-being. Since antihistamines will not work with this type of allergy ….I prescribe you cut this woman out of you life! Have nothing to do with her. Avoidance is the only cure.
Read this prescription at least twice a day. Use as needed and as often as the flare ups occur.
Hopefully your condition will clear up with in a month’s time.
And surgeon Disrespectful is on duty too! You need to cut this cancerous troll out of your life.
She makes you itch, don’t scratch. Pretend the awful plague rash isn’t even there at all. Only then will it go away.
Hit the Ignore Button on that B*tch.Don’t take her calls,just limit your conversations to Hi and Bye.Sometimes you gotta stand up before the evil MIL and slay the dragon.Don’t take her sh*t.If she starts up,pack your kid in the car and LEAVE.Get Hubby’s backing on this or it will be a lot harder.Do not sut her any slack.Practice some snappy comebacks.
Do not make yourself obligated to this old bat.I hope she didn’t help pay for the wedding or honeymoon.
Oh and I also don’t get he part in your posting where the MIL said you showed up at her house with some guy and she doesn’t know the relationship…Hmmmm,was she trying to imply you went over to her house with another man you were seeing behind her son’s back? If this is what you meant,I would have lost it and bounced her fat *ss right out of the bridal luncheon since she was making up lies about you and creating tension.Show her the door the next time she acts inappropriately.
Put on your Big Girl Battle Panties and be tough as this is going to be a bumpy ride.
Good luck to you.