mother in law invites ex wife in my home
by moonhaze70 on 09/10 @ 1:41amI am upset. I was sick with pneumonia for 5 days in the hospital. My mil came in to help my husband care for our newborn. Well i found out while i was in the hospital she invites my husband ex-wife in my home. I don’t know this woman, and I don’t want to because i want my own life with my husband. It is my home and I was sick in bed!
Also his ex invites herself or the mil invites her for all the holidays. The last 3 Easters for example the ex goes up to the mil. Well I am not going. My husband can pick up his own kids. Im tired of hearing it is for the kids. I think the mil does this on purpose although they told me i am immature and obsessing. No way….i am being disrespected. Please advise me what to do. I am very frustrated with this situation, anyone else with a similiar situation?
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2 Responses to “mother in law invites ex wife in my home”
If your husband and the ex have children together, then you must face reality and understand that the ex will be a part of the family — whether you like it or not — especially if the MIL liked the woman BEFORE the divorce. You don’t mention if your husband was the one who divorced the ex, or vice versa.
Frankly, I don’t know why you should feel the least bit threatened or put out or “disrespected” by the ex. She is the ex, YOU are the current wife. But he has kids with her, the kids want to see their mother, and kids want to see their mother at family functions. So, YES, it is ABOUT THE KIDS.
And, yes, you are being petty and immature. Grow a thick skin and try to be gracious. Your husband will love you all the more for doing so.
The ex is entitled to see her kids, but she is not entitled to do it in OP’s home. She can see them in her own home or in a public place. MIL is way out of line inviting ex into OP’s home without OP’s permission. Kids from blended families should have one Easter celebration at their mom’s house and one Easter celebration at their dad’s house. MIL has no business deciding ex will celebrate Easter with OP and OP’s hubby. MIL should not be allowed to invite herself, the ex, or anyone else over to OP’s house. I don’t think I like MIL’s attitude.