I have 3 SIL’s; my DH is the only son so hence the over protective MIL who wants to try and keep her son to herself. I on the other hand think that’s just sick. My brother is the only son but my mum isn’t at all like my MIL. In fact she treats my SIL so well that it makes me feel even worse knowing my MIL is never going to be nice.
Anyways this is what happened this week. On Monday after work DH and I went home (Yes I unfortunately live with them for now), his married sister was there with her husband and child.
After supper DH and I made them dessert, we all cleared up afterwards. I went up stairs to watch TV coz’ the maid was washing the dishes. My MIL sent her little daughter to call me to ‘Please help the maid with the dishes and clean the kitchen’, so I went to help and ended up wiping and putting away the dishes while the MIL and her married daughter busy chatted away.
If that wasn’t bad the next night DH and I went home a little late the next night. The IL’s already had supper and the little daughter and her friend was clearing up. So the DH and I had supper by our selves afterwards I left our dishes for washing with the maid. DH was watching TV afterwards, I just went up to join him, when his mother called me to her room and asked me if I had cleaned up, so I said no then she asked me in her moody tone ‘ then who cleaned up’ so I said the maid washed the dishes. And then her face went all sour and I just walked away to keep my cool.
Even last night I had to clean up by myself, she has a 23 year old daughter who does absolutely nothing.
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6 Responses to “My MIL wants me to be her maid.”
and where is ur dh all this while, why doesnt he help u? i can understand where ur mil is coming from. she wants things done HER way, it is HER home, HER rules. and u better move. the first night, she wanted to sit with her dd and talk, like any mom wud. the 2nd night as per what you wrote before u guys came the younger one and her friend cleaned up, right? not that she is giving them extra liberty, she is expecting a little extra from u, u are the only outsider there, rest has always been her family.. .. u have to move out, or keep respecting her in her in her house. good luck
Ok this story makes NO sense.
How many people are living in that house? What does hubby say about this? is the Maid a live inhere all the time or just durning certain times of the day? I need more information please.
If the maid is employed by your MIL to do household chores such as the dishes….it is her job to do them. If you desire to give her a hand once in awhile, I’m sure she appreciates it. The main point you and your hubby should be looking into is getting into your own place. This way you don’t have to “fret” over what MIL wants you to do.
OMG1 I thought I’d heard it all until I read your story.
First, WHY ON EARTH are you living in that house? Your husband is responsible for this sad state of affairs. Also, you make no mention of whether you or he work. If so, you should be making an escape plan PRONTO. If not, SHAME on the both of you. You’ve gotten what you deserve.
Regarding your 23-year-old SIL who does nothing. Sheesh! She lives in a house with a maid. She was raised that way. YOU have not place to whine about how poorly the MIL raised her own children, especially as YOU and your husband are there sponging off of the woman. Rules for the SIL are simply NOT going to apply to you and you should not expect it. Here is a phrase for you to commit to memory: LIFE IS NOT FAIR.
Frankly you sound very young and immature. You get what you get when you live with the MIL. Don’t like it? Pack your bags and get out. Until then, you are going to have to do as she asks. Like it or not, it is her house. THAT IS WHY IT IS STUPID TO LIVE WITH THE MIL!
While I totally agree that it sounds like your MIL is trying to put you into a ‘workhorse’ kind of role, there is one teeny possibilty to consider….
Was the maid hired when MIL & FIL lived alone & therefore only required to clean up after 2 people? Could it be that the maid is asking for an increase of wages based upon the extra people being in the home?
If that’s the case then I can sort-of understand your MIL wanting the two of you (you & DH – he should be helping so it’s up to you to include him if she won’t) to pick up after yourselves, however her rudeness & dissmissive attitude towards you reeks of entitlement & a superiority complex.
Perhaps you should tell MIL that either she pays her maid more, or pays you for filling in.