Okay, so I’ve tried to be nice, I’ve tried to have at least one honest conversation with her but I have a step mum in law who is in her 50’s and still thinks she’s the centre of the universe. She is completely fake all the time and kids herself that my husband hates her so that she can treat him badly when she chooses. I just can’t believe that someone her age can be so utterly childish and indeed, spiteful.
Yesterday I saw her for the first time since she found out that I am pregnant with our first child. Apart from saying a half hearted congratulations she did not say one other word about it. Not even to ask if I was okay because I had been too ill to meet them earlier in the day – I had had a crippling back ache amongst other things that were worrying me. We got 10 minutes notice to go and meet them in town and I just did not have the energy. To be honest, I think the fact that I didn’t meet them was her excuse for being such a bitch last night. Anyway I was so upset and couldn’t block it out with cigarettes and alcohol so made my husband take me for a walk on the beach to get her out of my system at 1.00 in the morning. I just don’t feel I can cope with being around such a self centred old hag in my condition. I’m terrified of stress and miscarriages. If I told her the truth she’d hold it against me for ever, or until she is convinced that I’m back in my place which is of course way, way beneath her.
How do I rise above this? The last thing I want to do is cause family ructions, my husband adores his father.
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2 Responses to “Step Mum In Law from Hell”
Encourage your hubby to spend time with his dad…ALONE! Come up with stuff they can do together for that male bonding time.
Treat your step-mil with the courtesy you do a stranger, no closer. Cut your face to face time with her to the barest amount. Give her no info, screen your calls and relegate her to the back burner of your life. Have other plans if she calls wanting to see you…”oh, so sorry I have a previous commitment”. If you have to be in her company….develop that thick skin and cultivate your selective hearing. Let her buzz and fret ….you ignore the she-clod.
You’ve got to stop caring about this old troll or what she thinks. Tell hubby she says really mean, upsetting things to you and that while you are pregnant it would be better to not see her. He can elect to tell Satan this or just beg off with an excuse that you are not feeling very well.
And then you should go about your life, not giving her one more thought, becuase she is not worth your time. You have enough to concern yourself — without her in the mix. Don’t let the old bat live in your head rent free. She is your hubby’s problem to deal with during this time, so let him.