Mother-in-Law HELL

Hi Girls, I am new to the forum, but wanted to give everyone out there hope that what goes around comes around.

For 3 years I have had the MIL from Hell, she ruined my wedding day, interfered in my marriage from beginning, I had to wait on her hand and foot, in the house, whilst she put me down day in day out until I had a nervous breakdown.

My husband took her side in everything. He could never see anything wrong in her. He lavished jewels on her really expensive stuff he even bought her expensive jewellery for the wedding day and not me his bride! I could hear people joking at the reception He married the wrong woman.

For 33 years he paid for her and every whim, paid for her phone, her clothes holidays the lot. Me I had to pay for half of everything. My son and I went without food and clothes, holidays whilst he paid for her to live a life of luxury. We had shabby furniture and leaks in the house but she always came first. She used to say she only had £45.00 pension a week to live on and so couldn’t help out she was only a poor widow on a small state pension. .

Anyway before Xmas 2006 she had a bad fall at the house and she moved in full time. I have been waiting on her taking her to the toilet, cleaning, bathing her cooking, washing her pee stinking clothes, being nice to her, carrying her to the car driving her to the hospital doctors, never a thank you always a bad word to me. She would pick up the phone and slag me off to all the family, she would say bad things about me. The moment my husband walked through the door she would start crying about how ill she felt and how she was not long for this world, and how much pain she was in. When 10 mins earlier she had been laughing on the phone to her friends. She played games everyday. My husband would almost kneel at her feet.

THEN WAIT FOR IT……..I am not a religious person but I put my hands together one day and said GOD I can’t do no more, this woman is killing me I need to leave help me I can’t take no more.

A few days later the hospital called and said that it was too much of a burden on me the doctor had noticed that I was getting very ill myself (none of her daughters and sons 4 and my husband hates them because they will not help the mother) will look after her) No one in the family would have her to stay. The hospital said that she could go into respite care. The social workers came to see me and my husband and said that she would not get her full pension whilst she was in respite care it would need to go to pay her care home bills. We said oh its only £45.00 a week.

The social worker said oh no its not its £385.00 a week she gets plus £100 attendance allowance for care. My husband and I nearly fell over. For 33 years she has been getting £385.00 a week plus £100 to spend on care. Thats nearly £2000 pounds a month a huge amount.

But thats not all……my husband said she must have thousands and thousands stashed away. No she has £7 in her bank account yep just £7 each week for 33 years the crafty old cow has been sending money to her other children and never a penny to my husband. she has paid for their holidays, clothes, cars one daughter is a complete waster who picks up men all over the place and and MIL has financed her drinking and men for years.

It also turns out that they have all been claiming carers allowances for the mother and money for taking her to the hospital, and looking after her when they have never once done a thing for her. We could not believe it

My husband turned 50 in February, and his mother forgot his birthday, and has not bought him a christmas present in years saying she could not afford to buy everyone presents, and it turns out she has been buying presents for everyone but us each year. She bought all the others Tiffany bracelets and Gucci handbags never once has she bought me anything, the person who has wiped her arse for years.

All those years we have skimped and scraped to look after her and she has been doing this behind our backs we have been giving her money and she has been giving it to the others who have more than we ever would.

IT upset my husband big time and they had a massive row, and she cried and created until my husband ended up saying sorry to her. Yes sorry to her. She said she would kill herself. I wanted to pass her the pills but oh no the stupid husband ended up begging her forgiveness. She treated him like dirt for days and still he kept running up to her begging her to take him back.

The long and short of the story is she is now going into a care flat for GOOD. Which means I will be shot of her for ever. However yesterday she rang up creating merry hell for money to furnish her new place and guess what the HUSBAND THE FOOL only said yes mummy I will buy you new curtains, and carpets and furniture. After all she has done to him he still runs around after her. I have never had new carpets or curtains.
He told me to get a loan to pay for her new stuff. Yes me muggings here has to get a loan to pay for her new things……I DONT THINK SO. When I said NO WAY the husband went mad at me.

I told my husband I want a divorce…..I have had enough……For years I have put up with her and him and their secret relationship. She always rings him up in secret and they giggle on the phone and if I walk in they change the way they speak.

Anyway I have decided life is too short to waste my life trying to split the two of them up they are welcome to each other. No matter what she does he will never tell her where to get off.

Anyway told the husband I am getting a divorce, solicitor sent letter telling him that I was filing papers and he sat in the chair and cried like a baby…….

NOT FOR ME……OH NO

But for the fact that who is going to drive him to the care home to visit his mother (he can’t drive) and how is he going to get to see her everyday if I am not here to drive him…..thats all he is worried about not me leaving and never seeing me again.

I am not strong but I know in my heart, no man no matter how much you love them is ever worth a life of hell for. He doesn’t love me all I ever was was a skivvie to his mother.

I have a son and I tell you when my son brings home a wife…..I will never ever interfere I shall be her friend and support her and never treat her the way I have been treated here. I have wasted years of my life on them both which I can never get back.

I told my husband yesterday he was wrong to marry me as he was in love with another woman. He didn’t answer.

I know I shall have to give up my home and life will be tough, but I believe it will be worth it.

Big hugs to you all and stay strong……..