My Future MIL loved me until my fiance and I got engaged. Once we were engaged, my fiance didn’t tell future MIL about it fast enough I guess… so I was excited, and put out save the date announcements. I didn’t know it at the time, but I sent these out before they were told about our engagement. Little did I know….
This just started a huge domino effect, with the worst coming in the form of my future BIL calling the cops because I “attacked” my fiance. Long story short, I was being trapped in my vehicle. Fiance got in my space too fast, and I pushed him slightly on the shoulder to get him out of my personal space. But both future MIL and BIL saw this as me attacking him….
this was over a month ago now. future MIL refuses to have anything to do with fiance unless he is alone. I have apologized for somethings that I know I have said that were not appropriate. But have yet to get an apology for her attacking me…. She was the instigator in the whole incident. If fiance and I had been allowed to leave when we wanted too, nothing would have happened. instead, future MIL and BIL sat back and insisted that no one was going anywhere until we had sat down to have a talk. Neither fiance or I were in the mood to talk about anything, and just wanted to leave….
Her latest thing was not even really calling fiance for his birthday. She called him, told him happy b day, and that was about it. a whole 30 second conversation. This was after flat out saying that she refused to join fiance and I, along with other family for a dinner for his birthday, and a lunch, and even dinner with just fiance. She said it was because of my “raging hatred” twards her. I want nothing more than for everyone to find some form of a middle ground so we can all just get along.
I sent her flowers for mothers day. What do you want to bet that fiance will get a call and all the credit, and once again, I will not even get a simple thank you. That is what happened on Valentines day. I spent my money and my gas and my time to make sure to go the hour drive out of my way to make sure that she got a nice bouquet of flowers and chocolates for valentines day. Fiance made sure to mention that it was ME that drove out there in MY truck, and that WE got her everything. It is his mom, I wanted him to get some credit…. well, she fawned all over him and didn’t even offer so much as a thank you to me. As a thank you, I got treated like shit the whole time we were there. She even went so far as to have a “private” conversation with fiance while I was sitting right there…. not that it was a real important conversation… unless you consider bashing her ex husband for over 3 hours an important conversation.
My idea is this. She has been divorced and single for 15 years. She has been a single mother much of fiance’s and future BIL’s lives. She depends on the boys for her entertainment and other non sexual “husband” needs…. I am a threat, because I am “kidnapping” one of her boys…. what does everyone else think?
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