Hi guys, I’m 24 years old and dating my boyfriend whom is 35. A large age gap I know, but it what matters between us that counts right?
Any ways, so Edward and I have been dating since the start of 08, however we were friends with benefits since 05 and were always on and off, however since we are offically dating we have been pretty close for well over a year.
Edward ’s parents own three houses, two in town and one in the city, his parents spend the majority of their time in the city. Edward lives in one of the houses (the other is rented out) in town and he manages their family business in town.
Now for his mother, omg she is a piece of work in so many ways. When I offically met her, she was off her face drunk, she kissed my cheek and her breath reeked of alcohol.
I started to know things were off about her when I was friends with Edward. One time I had to go to a wedding of a close friend since school in the city. I asked Edward to partner me and he said yes and he suggested that we stay at his parents place in the city. I said that would be great don’t want to fork out money on expensive hotels.
We get there and his mother herd us in and turns to Edward and says “I made up the spare bed, Tessa can sleep in there.” I gave a confused look, as for almost a year I slept in Edward’s bed back in town and she knew it.
Edward just rolled his eyes and took my bag to the spare room.
On weekends Edward ’s parents stay in town to check over their business, so I have stayed there at times just to be with Justin. After staying there a few times, I noticed his mother would sort of give me dismissive looks and it got to the point where I felt uncomfortable.
I noticed on most of the visits she would get stuck into the wine, and start to domineer convestation. I am about 10 cms taller then her but when I am sitting down she started to stand over me, talking jibberish and it made me feel scared at times.
Why I am writing this is over the past two weeks, she has been a nightmare. Okay so I was at Edward ’s place, before the arrival of his parents. We tidy up the front room which is a combined room of kitchen/loungroom. His dad walks in first bringing in food etc, then followed by her.
Her eyes were wondering around the room and I saw her staring at two cushions that didn’t go on the couch. Well she started to stomp in and out of the house, going to the pantry and opening and slamming doors. Edward asked her what was wrong.
“I am no-ones servant.” She declared before going into her room.
I hastily picked up the cushions and placed them neatly on the couch.
Then she came out muttering about some dinner she was hosting and then she seemed to settle.
So I thought.
I woke up to the sounds of cupboards banging, things being thrown on the counter. It seemed like ages, I looked out of Edward’s window to see it was predawn, meaning that the sun was a bout to rise in the horizon, so I am guessing 4:50 or 5:15am.
Feeling irratable, I put my hands over my ears and tried to go back to sleep. Instead when I thought the coast was clear to sleep. She started sweeping the carpets outside of Edward ’s bedroom.
Dinner was on at 8pm!
So the next day I was sitting watching a docoumentary, which I found interesting. Behind me I could hear her, moving around and then it was the dreadful exggarating sighs escaping her. It felt like she was glaring at me while she was doing it. This made me get up and leave. I couldn’t put up with it much long.
It seems that they call Edward up about ten minutes before they arrive which gives little to no time to clean up the house. Or for me to escape back to my parents house.
Anyways this week I went to the city, I had an event I had to attend. While I was away my mother called, she sounded stress. I asked her what was the matter. She replied.
“Tessa, I just got told that your pregnant. I know it is a rumour but it has spread around town that your expecting.”
I laughed and said I know I’m not as I’m bleeding at the current time.
“Well I got it on good authority that your apparently pregnant and that Edward ’s mother isn’t happy about it.” My mother said.
After asking how she found out, she said that an aquaintance of the family but a trusted friend of Edward ’s family told her that Edward’s mother gave her and a lot of the older towns people the news.
I am fed up with her. I try being pleasant for Edward’s sake, sometimes I wonder if she doesn’t like the age gap between Edward and myself. Or she doesn’t like me for some reason. It is getting me down. I love Edward to bits, yet his mother is the only negative thing about the relationship.




4 Responses to “Fed Up with mother in law”
Hey thanks for explaining to us idiots what predawn means? What is the deal…do you think becasue we are here in Mother I Law Hell we have no brains?
You do not have a MIL problem…..You sound like a little brat.
Get over yourself. Pick up your mess when you are living rent free at someone else’s home and stop pretending to be above it all. Especially at predawn.
I think that comment is a little harsh don’t you?
Just because you wouldn’t find it annoying i sure as hell would! I also wouldn’t count two cushions as a mess, but then that’s just me. Calm down.
SallyAnne i feel for you. Keep smiling and you’ll get through it
Can you clarify. You spend time at your IL’s house to be with Justin? WHo’s Justin? I thought your boyfriend was Edward?
JPS1015 seems to be in complete b!tch-mode. The OP’s original comment about pre-dawn should be taken with a grain of salt, and anyone LOOKING for someone to fight about will obviously pick the smallest thing. You sure you aren’t an MIL from hell in disguise?
Look, the predawn comment helped me out a lot. Predawn to our city is usually around 7:30am not 5:50am, so it really helped to know the OP’s logic in knowing what time it was as. Regardless of if she meant it as an insult (I doubt that), I find it very helpful to the story.
I would sit my man down and have a gentle talk with him about how I’m feeling. I would let him know what the ENTIRE town is saying about our supposed pregnancy and how I feel. I wouldn’t yell or belittle his mother, and I wouldn’t point fingers. Though I would inform him that you are being told it is his mother, but “that couldn’t possibly be true right?? I mean why would she want to do that to me??” (make the puppy dog face here
) It helps a lot to not just go out and attack the crazies.
As for showing up 10min prior to your house, I would put my foot down on there. Do they only show up only when you’re there? Make sure you TELL your man that you require privacy sometimes, who knows if you will be home (out shopping) or doing the nasty with him. And does he really want his parents to see or hear you doing that?? If not then tell them to call at least 24 hours prior notice (good etiquette is really 3 days in advance, but not with these psychos 24 hrs is hard enough). If they can’t respect yours and his (especially at his age) space, then they will never respect it.
If you let them keep doing their shit but occassionally pointing out what they are doing, he will definately catch on. If he doesn’t catch on and you lose your cool, just ditch the guy. No guy is worth putting up with someone that spreads nasty rumors like that. Remember, LIMITS. Keep limits with these narcissistic witches. If you don’t they will walk all over you, and remember to keep your cool so that THEY look insane.