Motherin-law:
So, my sicilian mother in law is slightly crazy. I’ve gotten in many yelling matches with her because she misinterprets EVERYTHING! She also doesn’t ever tell you how she feels and acts FAKE all the time. When she’s mad at you she doesn’t tell you and just acts like a total bitch, she fights with her entire family. I’m 5.5 months pregnant, my husband is an only child. She wants to host the baby shower because she HATES my mom, just like she HATES everyone. I had my mom and her sit down together and talk, where everything was sorted out (or so I thought). I guess she went home and twisted everything my mom had said, and even re-worded it to my husband to make my mom sound evil (I was there and my mom was very pleasant to her). She then calls me up and says she wants to run her own baby shower without my mom with only her side of the family. My mom would be heartbroken about this. She also makes up ridiculous things as to why my mom is a terrible person…HELP!!! I don’t know what to do – I am even considering leaving my husband over this. I am a very down to earth person, who hates confrontation and drama – but I don’t keep my mouth shut when people are wrong…I’m about a blow up at her in the worst way…
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3 Responses to “MIL MAKES STUFF UP IN HER HEAD”
First, don’t leave your hubby. He didn’t tell the lies. I know pregnancy can be very emotional time and MIL’s can be very frustrating! Mine did the same thing as this over everything since I have met my husband. She even got mad at our wedding because someone told her what table to sit at… Just remember, you and your husband come first. Talk to him and tell him how you fell and what really happened. Let him know that it is a baby shower for the mother to be, not the mother in law.If she can’t be civil and enjoy herself, she doesn’t have to come. That is my recommendation. If you don’t lay it out for her now, she will continue to throw a fit and lie to get her own way. Just like a child, you have to lay down the law in the beginning and stick to it.
You said : “She then calls me up and says she wants to run her own baby shower without my mom with only her side of the family.” – It already sounds like this freak has to much control to make such statements and if she thinks she can demand such things you need to start speaking up and fast.
This is what you do. YOU DON’T LET HER have ANY baby shower and you have the shower at YOUR PLACE with EVERYONE. You send invitations out and if she does not come even better, let the b*tch sulk, let her call your husband and if he starts on you tell him your considering leaving him because of what his mother is and does to you and your mother and the stress she causes you ALL THE TIME, even when your pregnant.
If she does not like that you are having the party at your place with all the family then she can get f**ked. Simple. She sounds like a toxic bitch who wants to control you and you need to put your foot down NOW before this baby is born because she will try to raise it like her own.
Well, you can ask your best girlfriend to host the shower instead. Then it is on neutral ground and your mom can come enjoy it with you. But, the main concern is YOU taking charge of this MIL idiot and refusing to let her run roughshod over your family. If she is doing this to your mom, she is going to try it on you, once her grandbaby is here. Get your rules in order now.