Mother-in-Law HELL

My MIL is a subtle sweet manipulator. She uses a soft voice, caring words to get what she wants. She will always change a plan I make to suit herself. She wants us to always travel to her house even though we have to catch two trains, and will outright say to my HB she doesn’t want to drive to us – in a sweet way of course. I have gone from liking to dreading to fighting it out with her back to being friends and just recently I am again furious with her interfering. We told her that we were moving overseas back to my homeland for a year, and I knew she would not take it well, everyone was full of sympathy for poor MIL, as was I – then. I arranged for us to have dinner and stay the night with her so we could break it…

My wife has a 44 year old sister who has graduated high school, never been married, has always lived with my MIL and never paid rent. Her only job since highschool has been waitressing – part time. During her sporatic work days she met a drug addict who fathered one of her children AND assisted her in getting 2 felonies – the other father is not known. She has 2 daughters;12 and 9 yrs old; and the 4 of them live together using grandmas social security as the primary source of existance. The SIL uses the daughters as a tool within the group to get her needs met. SIL has no plans to do anything with her life except to live off family and steal from her mother. My wife focuses on the nieces who are innocent victims of this behavior. I try and support my wife but I am…

I am new to this site and even though this is not specifically aimed toward SILs, I am so frustrated that I have no where to go to for guidance. Please excuse my OT post. My story started 3 years ago…..

I have a question for everyone because as each day goes on, I am more and more overwhelmed with this notion and my status anxiety has gone thru the roof. Here’s the shortest version I can come up with:

My husband (4 years younger) has a married sister who hates me and is my age. Secretly for the past 3 years, I have been competing against her because since day 1 she has looked down at me for an unknown reason. She doesn’t talk to me unless she has to. Doesn’t make eye contact unless she has to. I have gone out of my way to be civil and nice with…

My MIL recently came to live with us and she constantly complains about my children (ages 2years and 8 months) crying at night, she has friend that comes over late at night and acts like he doesn’t see me and makes little negative comments, she doesn’t cook or clean up, and she is living in one of my living rooms (we have 2) and it is getting on my nerves. I try to make small talk with her to be nice and she always responds to me like im the idiot. I have a degree and she just got her GED. I am thinking about leaving for awhile and visit my family so i dont have to put up with this drama but i dont want to take my kids away from my fiancee for the holiday season. should i take time to clear my head or should i stand…

Last week my MIL listened in (stuck her nose where it doesnt belong) on a disagreement between me and my husband. When she offered her two cents she told him RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME that he should slap me around to keep me in line. What kind of mother would tell her son to beat his wife? My husband has never hit me and I dont believe he ever will. Would it be too extreme of me to make sure I never lay eyes on this woman again unless its at her funeral? Should I stop even trying to talk to her at all?

I have been married for 8 years, have 2 wonderful daughters. My monster in law began being monster-ish after my first daughter was born. And when I say after she was born, I mean in the hospital hours after she was born. It started with her not leaving the room so my husbands father (long divorced from Monster in law) could not come to visit. The two will not be in the same room at the same time. She has the nerve to call a friend a B*itch when she did not see her wash her hands before coming in the hostpital room. Then she tells me “It is YOUR responibility to make sure people are clean before they touch MY grandchild or she might get sick an die”. I was in tears! Oh and get this, I thought this was her first grandchild…it is actually her 5th. She does…

I want to start out saying that I never considered my Mother-in-Law a mother-in-law from hell and while this changed the relationship it didn’t totally ruin it. I got a letter from my Mother-in-Law from California where they were living at the time and when I opened it and started to read I quickly discovered that she had placed a letter to her sister into my envelope. After reading what a poor mother she thought I was, that it was a good thing that I went back to work because I wasn’t taking very good care of my children, I sent it back to her with a note saying how she should be careful which letter she puts into which envelope and that she doesn’t know how things are here in my house and shouldn’t make judgements without information. I was going through a very rocky part of my marriage…