Ok so.. once upon a time I got along with my mother in law.. but that was before her son and I married. Hold on, BUT to my dismay I also found out 2wks before Christmas that she did not like me as a person, yes she told this to me face to face. Some how it’s because I’m not a mom that runs my self into the ground, ex: Keeping my kids in EVERY sports event, having them in Girl/Boy Scouts ( I have a son & daughter previous marrage ). I also informed my husband that before this talk that she didn’t like me and I told him it was because I was nothing like her EX-daughter in-law. Thankfully I’m not because I don’t see myself leaving him for another man. Then ooh I don’t know about a month ago she calls me a liar. I had no clue what on earth she was talking about, an yeah she filled me in on where she saw me as a liar in which she would NEVER believe another word out of my mouth. OMG .. that’s a diffrent story ugh.. I did tell her that I was NOT trying to get into her good grace, but that what had happened did NOT occur to me as lying. NOW that my husband has re-inlisted with the military and will not be back for 3m, so she decides to give me “Advise”. Her advise to me was that I needed to find a job NOW and not in 3wks, I had told her that my husband and I had agreed that I would start working again once the kids begin school. Of course.. that’s not how SHE wants it to be. So towards the end of this conversation she tells me ” Too bad isn’t here for you to tell him our conversation we just had. I was like… uuh ok. Yeah I keep my husband informed on everything! Especially when his mother has a “conversation with me” due to the fact that it’s normally never a good one and I want his oppinion on how to handle the situation. I don’t see any wrong in that. Poin blank my husband knows and admits that his mother is a bitch and is VERY mean. He has also notified me that I am married to him.. not her. So I’m at that point with her that I’m ready to tell her like it is. I’m just not sure on how to handle it all.
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A councilor told me years ago a little ditty that has stuck with me…
“You know… you can tell this person to drop dead and they really won’t do it, but it sure would make you feel better!”
So go forth and tell her dear…. cause once you stand up to a bully the usually aren’t as big as they seem!
Tell her this
“you know _____, although I appreciate your advice, our interactions to this point have not been very productive. From this point on, I won’t be needing any advice but thanks for the offer”
Use your caller Id and screen her calles. I do this. I don’t even have to answer the phone. If you don’t talk to her, you don’t have to hear her “advise” Since she was so open on how she felt about you, it is your right at this point to give it right back to her. If you have her kids, don’t bring them around her. You are all a package deal. Tell her the “meaner” she is to you, the less she will see her grandkids. You don’t want your children in a hostle environment!!