Mother-in-Law HELL

Background: My husband is an only child of a single mother who suffers from a laundry list of “serious” conditions. I am the youngest of 7 children and my parents are still married and hearing impaired. We have 2 daughters together and are both military.
My MIL has always made my life hell beginning with telling me that my husband was cheating on me (it wasn’t true). I have always taken it with a grain of salt because she suffers from dementia and her own mother told me she was evil. So when my husband was in Iraq for his 3rd tour she came to live with me. At the time my children lived with my mother because I was on a shift rotation with my position. She couldn’t pay her bills and was near being homeless. I offered my home and even made EVERYTHING in my home comfortable for her…

I am a 32 year old women. I have been with my husband for 14 years and we have 3 children. I always had a good relationship with my in-laws or so I thought. They lived about 300 miles away. Our problems began about 2 years ago when they decided to move closer to us (15 miles away). Things were great at first and the kids loved having their grandparents close. They are truck drivers and were on the road 3 weeks out of each month. The problem was that when they were home they wanted us to spend every waking moment with them. We did not mind going to visit sometimes but We do alot of family things just us and the kids. I believe my mother-in-law began to blame me because we didn’t spend all our time with them. She was really jealous of the relationship we had.…

I have been with my fiance for 4 years and we are getting married in 2 months. At the beginning of our relationship MIL was sweet and kind and very giving. Upon year 2 of our relationship things went downhill. It started with snide comments about the way I dressed or the way I looked or the way I responded to questions asked. Then it turned into an awful gossip session after I would leave his house. Such as “can you believe what she said?…etc. It started to turn really ugly after we bought our house. She would make comments to my fiance like “She has live a princess lifestyle with everything provided for her, once she realizes how hard things are when you live on your own, she is gong to pack up and move out” The worst was when her father became very ill last summer and she…

My husband was dying last fall. My sister in laws and my mother in law were bickering amongst themselves. One sister in law hadn’t bothered to communicate with my husband for the past 7 years except to complain about our adult (26 years old) son’s email to her (their dad was dying – she hadn’t spoken with him in 15+ yrs and suddenly wanted to submit the obit – of course with her edits). Anyway, they had scheduled trips to see my husband about 4-6 weeks out (separate since they were bickering). I called each of them once I was aware from Hospice that he really had less than 2 weeks and asked them to come together sooner rather than later. His best friend and wife were coming to stay, then our two oldest children – we live 650 miles from our family and old friends. I figured I could…

First of all I have to say to the young ladies about to get married.STOP…and observe his parents carefully.If they do things that annoy you,if they have little quirks and attitudes that drive you up the wall.Guess what your future hub is going to be like.It doesnt hapen overnight,they morph very slowly untill one day you realise that you have married their clone.Find out everything about them and the family.
Find out their secrets and genetic diseases.If I knew then what I know now….Fil is in a CULT.UGH!!!
Where to start. I have come to the point that I am finsihed with them.Hub has never set boundaries and as a result psycho wack job belives that she can tells us what to do and how to do it.I could write for days.Nothing is ever good enough.This woman didnt say hardly 2 words to me until the day of our wedding that I…

So, I recently got married on August 10th. It was beautiful and everything I could have hoped for! But now, my husband and I are living with his Mom, Dad, and their teenage daughter until we can build a stronger foundation of our own. I always had issues with his mom, ever since I met her. She’s one of those women who thinks everyone’s bussiness is her business and of course, she’s convinced she knows everything. Anyways, the day we moved in, I got so greeting whatsoever. All his mom had to tell me was that I had to give my dog away. He was a very purebred Chihuahua. It broke my heart, but I did it because I really had no choice. No one else could hold on to him for me or anything. Anyways, about a week after living there, she calls for a “family meeting”. And the…

Hi there,

I feel a little weird writing this but feel stuck!

I’m not married to my partner so his mother is not quite my mother-in-law (YET).

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we both want to take the leap into marriage. However his mother doesn’t want to meet me. She seems very dependent on her son and already has issues with her own daughter.

I can see that the family has communication problems and at first I thought I could change this, figuring once they met me they would fall in love and all problems would be over.

I’m not quite sure what to do. My boyfriend has been asking his parents to meet me but they still wont. I cant help but feel that if we are having problems now, what would happen if we did get married?

What should I do?

Any advice on what to do next would be…