Mother-in-law Hell

The first time I met her. DH & I had been dating 7 months, Dh’s daughter had just turned 7 and had major hip surgery and was going to be in a body cast for 10 weeks. MIL came down to help.
DH & I had separate apts and I only stayed with DH when his 2 daughters were at his ex’s. We dated 6 months before I met his girls.
DH and his older daughter went to pick mil up at the airport and they could not find her. She called the house I found out where she was and sent DH to her, she was pleasant on the phone etc.
On my way to DH’s apt I stopped and got dinner from a local place that does homemade roasted chicken, mashed potatoes, spinach, carrots etc.. When I got to Dh’s apt he left for the airport I set the table.Gave SD7 a sponge bath, shampooed her hair etc. DH walks in with other SD and MIL. SD7 was in a hospital bed in the living room so she would not be left out and bored, mil walked past me, with in 2 feet 3 separate times and acted like I was not there. Finally DH said Mom this is***. She looked me up and down and grunted. I was shocked but had been warned by other sister-in-law that she had dealt with MIL for 20+ years and it was not pretty.

DH was otherwise oblivious to all the hurtful nasty remarks during dinner and after. I know it sounds funny,but I never thought this would happen to ME. Everyone LOVES ME(now a running joke) so will his mother. When I went to leave that night to go home her parting shot was “Well I guess I will see you again before I leave, You do know I will be here 3-4 weeks”. I was stunned. I cried all the way home.

This was Monday and Thursday was Thanksgiving. I cried all the next day.I would meet with a client, cry then move on to the next jobsite and cry some more. I called my Mother and cried(my poor mother)That night DH called he need me to come over, he had to take SD10 to gymnastics and his Mother had to use his car and grocery shop at that exact time. I came and took care of SD7 and DH took my car. They week before I ended up with strep throat and DH had bought me 2 dozen roses. I took 1 dozen home and kept 1 dozen at his apt. DH came back, I changed as I was meeting friends and family for dinner out that night.I had 2 uncles in town for the night to see me as I was going to stay for Thanksgiving with DH and not go to my Parents 1 hour away. I went to change and came back out MIL was pissed I was in his room changing I was 39 he was 41.
We went out to sit on porch and his ex arrives first time I ever saw her. She and BM were chatting away I look over and SD7 is waving to me frantically. Her Mother had his were ignoring her and she had to go to the bathroom. I ran in and put the bedpan under her and took care of her while her own Mother and Grandmother gossiped 4 feet away. I looked over at them and noticed my beautiful roses had been throw away and 2 ugly haft dead roses sat in this big vase. I just had had enough.

I went back out to the porch and DH could see I was upset. He said what is up. I then told him all of her comments and digs etc(he was clueless) I said I will be spending Thanksgiving at my Parents you can spend that time talking to your Mother. I have never and will never be treated like this ever again. DH was shocked. That I was leaving him to the mercy of his mother. Poor baby.

He called me 6-10 times a day wed & thurs.SD10 ended up sick with a cold, SD7 was almost taken to the ER as MIL let her get dehydrated and she was delirious. DH called his brother Thursday night and told him how his mother had treated me etc. His brother said yeah and….She has treated my wife the same for 20+ years. DH said REALLY????????clueless!!!!

Fri morning DH woke to a phone call from his father, he said I need to talk to you Mother. DH thought his grandmother had died………..NO MIL’s new 3 month old puppy had gone out the night before to the fenced in back yard and the neighbor’s daughter had brought her big chow home for the holiday’s. This dog attacked and killed her puppy.
MIL started crying then the kids, DH called and begged me to come home. I said tomorrow and by the way have you spoken to your Mother, no but now how can I after this.

I let him stew and called Sat, told him he could meet me at my place tell MOMMY you have plans.
OMG my poor DH he showed up and looked like a man who’s soul had been suck out of him, he was miserable.
We had a great afternoon. Yes, he got ready to leave and actually expected me to follow him home and spend the evening with them. Oh NO, did you speak to your MOTHER yet, the answer was NO and so was mine.

More to follow and they do get better..OR worse depending on who you are in the story. This was 5 years ago and still counting. I look back and can make it entertaining and funny but in truth it was the most hurtful way I had ever been treated by someone on purpose and just for kicks.
In the past 5 years she has tried to destroy ME, my marriage, DH and her youngest granddaughter. All the while turning DH’s older daughter against DH and me and calling DH’s ex-wife weekly.

After 5 years and what she did last week I will never set eyes on her again. She is not welcome in my home and I will never visit his family if she is a part of it. How anyone could be so hateful to their own son and hurtful to grandkid is beyond me.