Mother-in-law Hell

Well my “relationship” with my monster in law started 12 years ago when I met my future husband. From day one she hated me (and that is not a fish tale!). She told my husband that he “could do better”. As the years went by she found ways to dig at me and try and make me feel uncomfortable. When I was going through Weight Watchers and I was down 30 pounds I was so happy and she looked at me and said with an eye brow raised “Thirty pounds, really?” I wanted to throttle her! Then when we told his family that we were engaged she put her hands on her hips, tilted her head and said “Your really going to go through with this?” At our wedding for the mother and son dance she held onto his neck for dear life and was crying so hard she was sobbing and heaving!! Another year went by of the same old same old and my husband and I found out that we were going to have a baby, my family was happy but his father said “Shit happens” and his mother said “Oh thats nice.” When we were pregnant with our second child she said “You know they do make birth control!” And with our third child her response was “Om my god guys,are you ever going to stop!” So after the loss of my last two children she was just as cold and heartless as before. Almost a year went by and we didn’t say more then 10 words to each other, we avoided eachother like the plague, then one day she gave me a necklace for my birthday with my son and daughter that had passed away engraved onto it. It was beautiful but she put it on me and looked at me with her usual degrading facial expression and said “You will wear that always and never take it off.” OH REALLY! I like necklaces but I don’t wear them hardly ever so I was planning on wearing it on special occasions. When I saw her a couple of times after that she ignored me if I wasn’t wearing it, or if I was talking to someone else she would walk over, butt into our conversation and ask “So your not wearing the necklace I bought you for your birthday.” and then she would turn to whomever I was speaking with and say “I bought her a necklace with her children engraved into it and she never wears it.” Ok so by this time I am ready to snap and a few weeks ago at my brother in laws wedding she didn’t look at me once even though I sat right behind her. We were at the reception a total of 6 hours and I didn’t see her once, but as my husband, son and I were leaving I was hugging the relatives from out of state and she pushed my husbands aunt out of the way to hug me and kiss me on the cheek (oh yeah and she said “I bought her this necklace for her birthday.”) and said “I love you.” to me!!!! I didn’t return the hug but I did comment back and with the aunt in shock I said “Oh you do, really?” And with that simple to the point question she hasn’t spoken to me since nor has she tried to pull information out of my husband regarding myself.